They say that you learn how to manage by being poorly managed. It makes the good bosses stand out. I’d say that’s the truth. I learned the hard way what I don’t like and what I do like. I’d like to think that even on my bad days I treat people better than the bad bosses.

i have “anti-examples” for different reasons. there doesn’t seem to be a single person who epitomizes everything i don’t want to be - probably just groups of people connected in a single way.

in the case of the blog, perhaps it’s a negativity-ego-insecurity release?

Melody - but her writing is so good… I just love the variety of ways she finds to be preposterous. I can’t read her blog without grinning ear to ear and also thanking God she lives in another state. She is funny like a character on Saturday Night Live,

Most of my biggest,life-altering decisions have come after an encounter with an anti-example.I’ve had several over the years.What I took it as at the time and even still,was that if I was not careful,if I just let things go on as they were and got really lazy,I could very well end up living the life of my anti-examples.Scared straight,I realized I was at a fork in the road and consciously chose to go in the opposite direction from my anti-examples.I believe that they karmic angels.They come to point the way.

Yes, this person’s name came up a couple of times this weekend — he’s like the anti-me… all style, no substance, he’s even a DJ, like I am, but we’re polar opposites in just so many ways. Even though we’ve never interacted much he’s one of few people that I genuinely dislike being around and I’ve done my best to avoid. Fortunately, he’s moved to another country.