Kids and Astrology - Pluto in Capricorn and My Son the Marine?

5 Responses to “Kids and Astrology - Pluto in Capricorn and My Son the Marine?”

1. kashmiri says on 6/9/07 at 3:19 pm:
   

   I wouldn’t care what my kid was. Just have integrity (ie. no crime, and don’t be an asshole). I like this post! Just this morning I was telling my sister I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like living as a senior citizen in a world by the kids of today: I think they’re mavericks.

   When I was eight, I wrote in our yearbook I wanted to be an astronomer. Last summer I came across that written pledge and laughed: I am studying astrology!
   Your son may express a desire to be a Marine. When he’s an adult, he may be a world leader of a different kind. The sentiment is the same. He is expressing a desire to help and to lead, and there is nothing wrong with that. That desire to help other people is one that can be nurtured, and over time the harsh reality of being a soldier will be evident even to him.

2. Lupa says on 6/9/07 at 3:24 pm:
   

   My youngest son insists that he’s going to be a rock star. He has said this for ages and has a nicely aspected 5th house sun so I don’t doubt that he could do it someday.

   I would have a very hard time with any of my kids wanting to be soldiers but I would try very hard not to stop them from doing what they felt was right for them.

3. Cole Styles says on 6/9/07 at 6:49 pm:
   

   I agree with kashmiri, be liberal about the belief

4. Melody says on 6/9/07 at 8:31 pm:
   

   Yes Kashmiri, that was beautifully put!

5. Nia says on 6/10/07 at 5:38 am:
   

   I learned this lesson early on with my little brother- basically that he was unstoppable.

   I love him so much and assumed that because we got on and connected so well our goals would be similar. It was a shock to learn how different we were, how little our life goals and plans were related.

   And as someone who was looked at to provide guidance for him I decided that the best guidance was to just stand back and let him live his life even though many of his choices were anathema to me. Ultimately I had to trust in his own ability to be a good person through whatever career choice he made and offer pointers or ask if he’d considered something where I thought useful.

   I’m pregnant now and thinking often about what my child will be like. My dreams for him/her of being a healthy, independent individual go hand in hand to maybe not liking their choices - that’s the price to pay.

   I admit that a child’s career in the armed forces would push way more of my buttons than ballet dancing. In fact it would push more buttons than most anything else (except say, ‘human trafficker’) because of my own experiences with war and armies. I would find it as painful as I’m certain my mother found many of my choices. It’s inescapable though - the kids desires to be their own people, and a gift really.

   I guess with particular careers I would be looking to exercise a lot more of ‘have you looked at it from this angle?’ ‘have you thought of it like this?’ and made sure to expose him to some accounts of how war is a dirty dirty dirty fucking business (and it really is, I’ve lived through two of them) and how armies (especially American armies) are fucking hated almost anywhere they set foot in (especially by the local people who don’t see them as heroes but oppressors) and how if he wants to be a hero and serve his country he’d probably be better served by being a firefighter or a medic, but ultimately recognise that these are not the choices I can control and that children do what children want to do.

   Good luck

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