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Confused About Her Direction in Life: Two Stelliums in Opposition - Venus Conjunct Neptune in Sagittarius

May 25th, 2007 @ 3:24 am by Elsa

Dear Elsa,

I recently ended a relationship with my man of 4 years and moved to a nice city in a new state to live near my brother and sister. I have been job hunting for the past few weeks and so far the search has been relatively unfruitful, with a twist of bizarre thrown in for good measure. The truth is, I am finding it quite draining and I am confused about where to direct my energies.

You see, I have this long-standing block in my eternal search to find work/career that fits my needs, pays well, and makes a difference. I guess I am still struggling with what I want to be when I grow up. Also, I just don’t “live to work”, and wish that we Americans had a bit more European sensibilities about vacations and hours. At the same time, I have this really strong drive for success and am very dependable and efficient at work.

This block started in college in 1995, and I have been working with it ever since. When I feel stressed about it, I either go blank, or come up with idea after idea that I ultimately decide are unrealistic or undoable. Truthfully, I am intelligent and creative, and always get along very well with my co-workers and customers. Everyone who knows me sees great things, but I continue to feel lost in the woods on this one.

I am starting to get desperate and think that either I need to go back to school to further my education and become a teacher - or maybe come up with a small business idea and try my luck in that world. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Stellium in Scorpio
United States

katherine hepburn Dear Blocked,

This may sound like criticism but it absolutely is not. Because when I see a chart like yours, I feel nothing but compassion. How can a person possibly live in these shoes?

And I have some advice for you which may sound simplistic or even stupid, however I don’t think it is. I got this from my friend Ben, who got it from Katherine Hepburn, who simply said, “You can’t have it all”.

And fact is, you can’t have it all! And when Ben ran into this concept, he found himself enormously relieved. And I suspect you may have a similar experience if you will allow this simple truth to penetrate. Because if you do, when you look around at people who are (still) laboring to have it all, I bet you smile. Been there, done that, figured it out.

So try it. Be willing to concede, accept and embrace the fact you can’t have it all and I bet you see some priorities emerge. Boy won’t that be nice.

Good luck.

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3 Responses to “Confused About Her Direction in Life: Two Stelliums in Opposition - Venus Conjunct Neptune in Sagittarius”

Elena

this made me smile since it brought back memories from my grandma who was a well of sayings. She used to say this a lot! and also about the other posts about people who don’t like you she had to say this: You can’t have everyone love you!
I guess this maxim goes form many things in live!:-)

5/25/07 @ 8:59 am (reply)

Thank you thank you! I could have sworn that this person who wrote was me. I struggle in the career direction also. It doesn’t help in that I get bored a year or two into any career I’ve choosen. I have a basic mastery at that point and well… My focus shifts to something new, something more challenging.

This is a relief to think of. I can’t have it all. I want a bit of peace in my area of the world and am thinking that it would be wonderful to not have to strive for it all. To live up to being perfect, better better better.

I think I can stop killing myself now. I think, just maybe, I could possibly “settle” !!! Thank you for asking this question!

5/28/07 @ 10:46 am (reply)

I thought i’d written it too Am having an almost identical crisis (pluto on my 10th square a heavily populated 1st/7th axis). Cant have it all but be nice to have something. My dad says take anything but too many do that and end up stuck in miserable existences. Sometimes i look at people who stayed in tribes and think, maybe that was a better way to live. You cant do anything without £ these days, you cant even drop out and live off the land as the land is usually owned by someone. Modern life eh. If you can work for yourself girl go for it! Its gotta be more fulfilling..

5/29/07 @ 5:09 am (reply)

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