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Her Job As A New York Au Pair Starts In Two Weeks, She’s Waffling: Gemini Sun, Aquarius Moon
Dear Elsa,
I am about to get a BA from a small, liberal arts college in the Midwest. Ultimately I want to work in the social work field with children & families - as a family advocate or a case worker.
I took a position (no contract) as an au pair out in New York state. Lately I’ve been feeling unsure if this is the right choice for me. It’s for 8 months to a year. The family seems nice, but I’m concerned because they have me on sort of a curfew (midnight on weekdays). I know it seems silly, but I’m used to being a fairly independent person at college. Plus, I don’t know if this is going to keep me moving forward on my career goals. I’m supposed to leave to go there in two and a half weeks.
I’ve also applied to a graduate school program for social work, which I was planning on deferring if I got in… I’m basically all sorts of confused and I don’t know how to get any clarity on the subject.
Social Worker
South Korea
Dear Social
With a stellium in Gemini and Jupiter conjunct your Moon in Aquarius, you really don’t want anyone making rules that impinge upon your right to flit about and roam freely. So I am not surprised you are feeling angsty. And an argument could be made that you ought to grow up and conform; however, I am not the one who is going to make it.
I do think you should grow up - but not by conforming and subverting your nature. Instead, I think you should make your nature even larger by explaining to your employer that you are committed and will do a fantastic job, but you require your time off be yours without restriction.
You might add that you are a responsible person and have no intention of coming in drunk at 4 AM to work at 6 AM… if this is true and I suspect it is. Because you do not sound irresponsible! You just sound as if you’re wigging on a short leash and if they will allow you to be leash-free, you will probably be their dream au pair.
So I would try to communicate this. It is the mature thing to do and if they insist with their rules, you just may have a deal-breaker on your hands. And even in the worst case scenario, you’d have learned something about you.
Good luck.
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Oh, how I agree with this! (Aquarian moon here too) It will allow you to build trust with them as well - and in my opinion they should be open and positive if you would suggest something of the sort. In any case: your free time is YOUR free time, not theirs.
as someone in grad school, i would say this: if you know what your goals are, figure out the best path to achieve these goals. you need an MSW to be a family advocate. how does this au pair position help you towards your MSW/advocate goal? if it doesn’t, why are you considering it? why defer school? is it because you aren’t sure you’ll get in, or because you aren’t *sure* what you want to do? if you’re not sure what you want to do, find someone who does the job you want to do, and ask them how they got there. i know this might seem ‘presumptuous’ somehow, but really, most people with a vocation (and in my opinion, that’s what social work is) are *MORE* than happy to encourgage/advise/relate to other people who have the same calling. and if they aren’t, it maybe isn’t their calling, and you should try to talk to someone else. mostly, i think, those who truly thrive want others to thrive. they will help.
i agree with Elsa: don’t try to conform/subvert your nature. but be sure that your nature will be served by the path you are on. what do you want to do, and how can it best be done.