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Having Problems In Relationship After Suffering Multiple Childhood Molestations: Leo Sun, Stellium In Libra

May 9th, 2007 @ 3:43 am by Elsa

Hi Elsa,

I think I’m truly screwed up. On the surface, I seem like an intelligent, fun-loving, nice person… but on the inside, I am suspicious, moody and pessimistic. My self-esteem is non-existent, and I’m getting to the point where I’ve seen so many failures in my life, I don’t want to try anymore - for fear of failing again.

One example is my love life which is a misnomer, because my love life is dead. I don’t trust men… and I kind of share a love/hate relationship with all of them. See, my father died when I was 6 - but not before molesting me. Then my stepfather molested me when I was 12 and then my uncle when I was 14. Since then, of the few relationships I’ve had, I’ve seen that guys only want sex and no strings attached… which I find very hurtful and offensive. I know it’s a “guy thing” and maybe even a girl thing nowadays, but I’ve yet to know a guy that is actually nice.

Every relationship I’ve been in has left me broken-hearted, cheated on, broke (one guy stole my money) and now I’m to the point that I’ve seen the pattern of assholes and I don’t give guys a chance… period. Every time a guy talks to me, I think he wants something from me, and I am so tired of being hurt and taken advantage of. My friends say I’m a prude and a nun, but I’m just protecting myself.

I want so badly to be loved and wanted, but for something a little bit more than sex. Is there something in my chart that reflects these bad relationships or am I doing something subconsciously? Thanks for any help.

Screwed Up
United States

leo lion girl Dear Up,

You sound very angry. Do you realize how pissed off you are? And though you have cause, if you want to fix this you are going to have to address your rage and I think you will need a professional to guide you. Should you bother? Yeah, I would.

You have Venus, Mars and Pluto in Libra (relationship) which is proof positive that deep down you want a partner. This message repeats with your Moon in the 7th house, indicating an emotional need to be partnered. So understanding this, are you sure you want to write off men?

Now I know you are pissed (and suspicious, moody and pessimistic) but are you doing anything about it? Other than digging your heels in, I mean. Because digging your heels in is going to get you nowhere, nobody and worst of all, it’s going to get you no healing. And don’t you think you deserve to heal? I do.

I say get a therapist and forget all about the people who are calling you names. Tell the therapist someone told you that you were MAD AS HELL and see if they can’t help you work through your pain and release your anger. You can get the loving partner you deserve because he actually does exist.

I am very sorry for what you lost and hope you cut your losses here and work to turn your life in a new direction. You are meant to loved and partnered. Don’t let some loser abusers take this from you.

Much love and good luck.

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5 Responses to “Having Problems In Relationship After Suffering Multiple Childhood Molestations: Leo Sun, Stellium In Libra”

Marianna

Elsa, I was wondering if you can see in this girl’s chart the abuse of those monsters (father, stepfather, etc)and if you do, pls tell me the aspects…thank you
Dear Up I’m really sorry that you feel that way….may you soon find the power to overcome this and find the real love…

5/9/07 @ 2:57 pm (reply)

Elsa

Marianna, I’m sorry I can’t. If I did it would amount to a (yet another) boundary violation perpetrated against this gal because the request did not come from her.

5/9/07 @ 3:54 pm (reply)

kashmiri

You can positively, actively, happily, truthfully overcome your early life experiences and live a fulfilled life, Up. That’s where you are going….UP.
If I would stay anything, though, it is nix talking seriously to any friend who says you are prudish or nunlike and talk to people who are able to help you.
Those folks don’t know what the fuck they are talking about. And I don’t blame them, because so many people are clueless to sexual abuse, but there really is no substitute for the comfort of a professional counsellor.
You can absolutley handle what life cruelly throws at you! Many people do! You are not alone.

5/9/07 @ 7:00 pm (reply)

paiyeo

i was wondering what houses and rulers would correspond to someone who likely does Not feel a strong pull/need to be partnered up like Libra.
Aquarian stuffs? ‘Let’s be friends’ etc…?
Mars-Venus oppositions/squares?
what else, pls. do tell…!

5/9/07 @ 8:27 pm (reply)

Crystal

Hi, I’m the original poster (AKA “Up”)…I would be happy to share any info about me and my chart (Sag moon, 7th house…LOL) because I think asking anyone else what they may think gives you an entirely new perspective than you saw before.
I have Venus & Mars in an exact conjunction (6 deg) of Venus/Mars in Libra in my Virgo 5th house, along with Pluto (14 deg Libra) and my North Node(28 deg Virgo) and PF (15 deg Libra). I don’t know if the 7th house coincides with this topic as I am not married, but I have Moon and Neptune in my Sagittarius 7th. Also, Saturn conjunct Mercury in my 4th. There aren’t any squares in my chart, but I do have everything else.

Hey, if anyone can tell me anything, it is very much appreciated….I’d like to figure stuff out too…

Elsa, thank you for answering my letter…and you were absolutely right, I am mad as hell.

5/14/07 @ 10:32 pm (reply)

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