Dear Aquarius,

It is a true challenge to be 14, what with puberty and all. No one is exactly stable with their hormones raging and it may be some comfort to keep this in mind. My daughter is your age and I tell her constantly that not only is she crazy and struggling, so is everyone else in her school - and that seems to support her. Puberty is an adventure and also something she can detach from and view intellectually, which is an Aquarius forte. Because the fact is: regardless of the exterior, virtually everyone in your age bracket is half-crazed trying to figure it out!

And I mention this is because I think you’d be best served by paying less attention to the individual questions which will ultimately solve themselves, and focus instead on figuring out how you are going to live in the this soup we call society. Your Gemini man and your Sagittarius woman and your parents are all part of the soup. They have a role to play, you have a role to play, and with a stellium (group of planets) in Aquarius and another in Pisces, you are going to be somewhat out of bounds… this is just the way it is.

So in the case of your parents, someday you are going to shock them, aren’t you? I would say this is inevitable and as to when you want to do that, the answer is whenever you like. It’s your life!

On the generalized hate out there, I don’t think you should pay it much mind. People do have prejudice against gays but they are also prejudiced against any number of other things. This race judges that… while the moneyed judge the poor, and the poor judge the moneyed. Best not be too attractive. Best not be overweight! You get the idea. It will not help you to take a victim position. Why feel set upon when the guy next to you is oppressed as well but in a different way?

Last, these two loves of yours. I would just take that a day a time. You’ll tell them whatever you tell them on the day you tell them! And this may not seem like ‘advice” but it is actually the best thing anyone could tell you. That you are FREE, that is. And they will react however they react because they are also free. And this is also, just the way it is.

And you don’t have to take this so seriously. For example earlier this year, my daughter, who is a fairly mature 11 year old in 7th grade, ran around and told the whole school she was bi-sexual. There was an uproar, which I think she quite enjoyed. She has since decided she is not so sure and wondered if she made a mistake. I told her there are no mistakes and maybe you get the point.

Never mind the details. Try to develop a philosophy that you can live by. One that allows everyone to be whoever they are and this includes the bigots (of all kinds).

Good luck.

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