Dear Inept,

I hope by the time you finish reading this, you will be willing to think about finding a new name for yourself because “Inept” does not suit you. And this may across as a personal reading which I don’t do on this blog, but the fact is a lot of people suffer as you do to a lesser degree - so I think a lot of people may be able to hitchhike on this. In other words, they will be helped by your energy and with a 6th house (Virgo, service) packed with Scorpio (copious amounts of energy), I think this is good and right. So on to your questions.

You can definitely feel close to other people and although it may not come natural to you, once your master this, people will be hard pressed to find a better friend. Because never mind what the fools around you are saying. At your core when we strip away the crap they are throwing on you, you are a loyal, steadfast, responsible friend, who would be the first to show up in a time of need and the last to leave. There is also a sense of humor in there somewhere and if you put this all together, it constitutes the package you’re selling.

So do these people around you deserve you? I don’t think they do. I think you need a lot less friends!

Now you are 22 years old. And in high school, whoever has the most friends wins. But when you get older, and particularly if you have four planets in Scorpio, then it’s whoever has the best friends that wins. And I just told you what kind of friend you are, so I feel pretty confident that like will attract like once you get your head on straight.

Er… you know how they say opposites attract? On one level that may be true but if so, how come all the pot smokers seems to find each other? How come I am an intense piece of work and so is every friend I have?

People find each other and you will find your people but you have to find yourself first and to do that you are going to have to rid yourself of all the negativity people have thrown on you. And once you’re clear, you will have to be vigilant about who gets close enough to affect you in this way and on that I can tell you where to start.

Anyone who tells you that you suck has got to go. You have enough Capricorn you can do that for yourself. What you need is people who will support you and remind you that you don’t suck. So when there is someone in your life who is sending you the opposite kind of message… amputate! Get rid of them. And it may help to think of it like this:

You are looking for an “inner circle”. You are going to give your friends all you have, so how many can you accommodate? 1? 2? Probably not more than 3 or 4. So do you need someone running their mouth about how awful you are taking up a slot? I don’t think you do.

So I say, clean house. Weed the garden and then be still. Because you have incredible energy and the people will come to you. And when they do, then you judge them, not the other way around. And when you do get a friend you like and can trust, then protect them and the relationship with everything you have and you should be just fine. And one more thing:

One friend is plenty when they’re awesome. Sometimes it’s like that. I went five years with one friend (Ben). I have more people in my life now but I would not trade that “one friend” time for anything. What you need is intimacy, see? And you can’t have that with people who talk behind your back. Less is more.

Good luck.
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