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Instant Karma, Truth and Violence in General

leonard cohensatori and I. We’re still talkin’. Well, mostly me. But this is my bent…

“So as far as I am concerned the gal in Leonard Cohen’s poem… well, he just wrote her down, exactly. Which I think is nervy. But think about it. They run into each other - these ex-lovers. And she tells him his eyes are dead. What happened to you, Lover?” I smirked. “Like he’s broken or something. What the hell kind of thing is that to say? Who would to say something like that? It’s awful. It’s awful and it’s arrogant. Isn’t that how it sounds to you? Doesn’t that sound arrogant? You know? Uppity? Pretentious? Oh, your eyes are dead.”

“Yeah.”

“Well, I think so. So he goes home and writes a poem about her. He immortalized her in this poem and all it is the truth! It’s not hateful. It’s not vindictive. He says she lost her beauty and in fact she has. Because anyone who could and would say something like that, obviously has no beauty to them. How can make a comment like that and be beautiful, inside or out?”

She agreed.

“So I think he just wrote down reality. Apparently she was once beautiful. But not anymore if she is going to walk and make this kind of comment to people. And I don’t think he was mean. He just wrote the facts of this situation… in an elegant way I admire. And you did the same with that woman. Fact is, she slept with a cad. Your husband was a cad. He slept with her and then came home and talked nasty about her. What a jerk! So you wrote it down and in the process she took a fall.”

“Yep.”

“And he took the fall too. Because anyone reading what you wrote knows what he did. He slept with this woman like some kind of experiment and then critiqued her, for Godsakes. How repulsive is that?”

“It’s disgusting.”

evening or lost illusion gleyre“Agreed. So anyway, I bet that woman Cohen wrote about wished she’s had kept her arrogant mouth shut. And your gal? Well if she could go back in time and keep her pants on, I’m sure she would. Or pick another target, right? One who won’t or can’t shoot back. Because she lost her life on that one. Her illusion of who she was and how people saw her.”

“I’ll say.”

And those robbers on the bus? And the rapist with the popped testicle? They’d make new decisions too. These people are out making life treacherous for others as if it can’t come back on them!”

“Well it can and sometimes it does. And fast.”

“Yep. But anyway, this stuff is fascinating to me. I have a lifelong interest in this for so many reasons I don’t think I can count that high. Violence and non-violence, I mean. I have had to think about this my whole life and non-violence is luxury as far as I’m a concerned. It’s fine until some guy is on top you and you’re being raped. Or someone grabs your kid and starts running out of the department store. You’re non-violent and you can preach it till you’re blue. But them something like this happens and all the sudden you find yourself hoping like hell for a violent intervention. So anyway, these are hard questions. It’s hard to ask them and it’s hard to answer them. I have been trying to answer them all my life, actually. Can you believe that? You get this old and you find out what your life is about and for me… well this is a very big deal. I wish I knew a lot less about it, actually. However I am having the life I am having.”

Do you have a stance or a position on violence?

pictured: Evening or Lost Illusions, Charles-Gabriel Gleyre, 1843, Oil on canvas, 39,5 x 67,5 cm, Kunstmuseum, Winterthur

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7 Responses to “Instant Karma, Truth and Violence in General”

  1. kashmiri says on 3/18/07 at 11:50 pm:

    I have a stance on Leonard Cohen. A Gemini I was in love with read me Cohen once. God, I loved that Gemini. I think he was feeding the Grand Fire Trine in my chart. We never consumated the relationship. Damn!

    As for violence, I don’t like it. Who does? Some people say it’s necessary. For what, I am not sure. Wars don’t seem to stop wars. They seem to tucker people out so they stay peaceful for a while, then they go back at it again. Or maybe not…

  2. Amber says on 3/19/07 at 3:15 am:

    Saying something like that is a violent act. It was unnerving reading that, since I remember once when I was hurt by a man cutting him with words. The thing is: my knife was too sharp, and I cut him to bits. And that was not my intention. OK, we are having a fight, but I don’t want him cut up in pieces ready to deep-freeze in the end! I would say it is my strongest weapon, but I have to control it. Because if not - there goes beauty. I think you’re right about that. It needs a perfect balance for it to be effective. Only cut that deep, if you’ve been cut that deep.

  3. C. says on 3/19/07 at 7:25 am:

    I don’t know if I agree with you on the woman Cohen writes about. When I read that she saw her ex-lover and said that his eyes were dead to me it was a metaphor that she was finally “seeing” or admitting that their relationship had died.

    She could no longer bring fire, light, life to his eyes and she recognized that fact and blurted it out in a shocked surprised manner.

    I guess maybe in some strange way I relate to her, once, a long time ago. I remember his eyes being dead when he looked at me. I realized that he no longer loved me and yes, that very thought “your eyes are dead” did actually occur to me. I guess i didn’t think of it as HE was dead, just that it was a reflection of the pain that we were both in and the lack of love he had. I remember being surprised.

    There I go again, relating to the other side.

    ;)

  4. Elsa says on 3/19/07 at 7:35 am:

    C. - sounds like a completely valid interpretation to me! That’s art for you.

    It’s the “What happened to you, Lover?” that swayed me. As if it were he who had dropped… had something befall him, not her. She was judging him. Very cool,though. I wondered when I wrote that if others would parse his words differently than I did.

  5. kashmiri says on 3/19/07 at 8:40 am:

    I must confess that “What happened to you, Lover?” makes me think of failed expectations in general. More to do with me. As in, wow, you were the twinkle in my eye and now you’re not; is there something in me to have caused that?
    Then again I have a 1H Moon and I get caught up in seeing my relfection.

  6. saggal says on 3/20/07 at 10:23 am:

    I’ve seen a lot of violence in my life and it has affected me profoundly. Most of it was not the type that can be justified, mostly bullying. I’ve inherited some violence, from the ever loving family unit, but try to use it in the right situations. The whole subject just makes me so emotional! I was the big sister who threatened girls about 5 years younger than me to leave the younger ones alone. I was not tolerating any of that shit to anyone I cared about, not at all. But for myself, I would let it happen. I still tend to do that. It’s hard to figure out when it’s necessary and when it’s not. I have brothers that have committed violent acts on my behalf, some necessary, some not. All bothered me in the end, even if I were safer for it. Self defense violence is a violence I will commit, although I usually freeze in those situations. I too easily fall into a victim mentality and it’s an easy one for me, but leads me to even more anger and therefore violence. I make no sense!

  7. Rainsinger says on 3/21/07 at 7:43 am:

    I think “your eyes are dead” is shorthand for “you look tired/stuck” and I don’t think it’s anymore of an inappropriate observation than “you’ve lost your beauty”.

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