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Jupiter in Sagittarius: Making New Friends
Astrology in Real Life…
I just spent the last 8 weeks trying to be friends with someone who said they wanted to be friends with me. And it was confounding too. Because I was very motivated to connect with this man, but every time I reached out, he deferred or deflected me in some way.
And when he did this, I assumed he changed his mind about knowing me and retreated. And as soon as I retreated he was in my face with a present… and this went on for two months.
Ultimately I told him I just could not go on. “Do you realize every time I reach out to you, you put your hands in your pockets? Or you hide them? I have no idea what to do,” I said. “So I go away and then you reengage me…”
I went on. I explained how I felt and let him know how hard I was trying to find a way to connect with him. It was last ditch effort to forge a relationship but after listening to me he did little more than laugh, so now I am done. Two months and nothing. I got nowhere. And here’s the thing:
Now he is dejected and rejected. He appears to be baffled as to why I no longer want to pursue a relationship with him. And hurt and injured and confused. Well jeez, guy….
And today I was thinking about this and it occurred to me it is virtually impossible to be friends with someone who isn’t friendly! You know. Here’s my phone number, where is yours? You call me and I call you. If you can’t or won’t do this, if you will not allow people to connect with you emotionally, what can the rest of us do?
Are you friendly? Where’s your Jupiter, and how is aspected?
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Very friendly. Jupiter in Pisces square Uranus. I just have difficulty with “make new friends but keep the old..” and have a fear of commitment as a Gemini.
I’m reserved with strangers but friendly when engaged…also jupiter in pisces, but trine saturn and square neptune.
Was going to say that 8 weeks is a long time to go through that pattern but realized I have done the same with a few people for at least as long.
I have had situations like that. I think that is because they think they “should” to be friendly because it is suposed they should be, in that scope. May be in fact they doesn’t like you. I also dedicate a friendly smile to them (although may be in a cynical way) because I am really friendly with everyone in this world. (Jupiter 9th trined Sadge ASC, sextiled venus,trined Saturn)
Well if he didn’t like me why buy me things and invite me places?
I think it was more that he liked me but had no idea how to cope with the fact I liked him back!
I’m friendly, more so if someone I know is close by. I have Jupiter in Cancer. When people act like that with me I eventually give up. I don’t mind doing the work to get to know someone, but there is a point when I just let it go.
He is very confused.. or possibly just likes the chase and doesnt like to catch. How dull.
I have loads of jupiter in me.. Im super friendly, most times.
I am friendly. I am intimidated by no one except rude people, they make my ego fall into little pieces.
My Jupiter is in Gemini, in the 5th house. Opposite Neptune (12th); trined Pluto (9th); sextile Saturn (7th) and Mars/Venus (both 3rd).
What you wrote about trying to be friends with an unfriendly person really hit home. I ended a friendship with a person about 6 months ago who was not only unfriendly and aggressive in general, but she resented all of my other friends.
Ultimately I got tired of the push/pull as it was hard on my self-esteem. I can’t understand people who are too withdrawn to respond to love.
To me, it’s refusing a glass of water when you’re thirsty.
Are you sure this is a Jupiter thing? ‘Cause my beau, he had a similar pattern, and it took me *months* to get him to stop projecting rejection onto me! But, he has a really wobbly Venus–it’s in Virgo conjunct Uranus & Pluto, square Jupiter and his Nodes & opposing Saturn and Chiron–and he also has a vulnerable Capricorn Moon.
I figured the “kiss one day/ignore me the next two/hint for another kiss a week later”, always polite but also often somehow distant, pattern was a Saturn/Cap insecurity thing and ignored it. It wasn’t easy, no…BUT, it helped me practice emotional detachment AND self-confidence by understanding that it really *wasn’t* me with the problem.
So that is what a person can do. You can make them work harder to make you reject them than to give up and accept being friends with you! Unless you truly don’t much care for them–then it is simply cruel to try and boost their confidence so that they can finally relax and just *be* with you.
But I still think it is more a Saturn thing…
As for me, I have Jupiter exalted in Cancer, well aspected (to Sun/Moon/Asc/Neptune/Pluto/Uranus) except an exact semi-sextile with Venus, and in the 12th. I’m not necessarily outgoing, but people generally find me quite friendly & approachable, unless I’m being moody & defensive (Cancer shadow).
Sure it is very a strange thing. It sounds like a game to me. I can’t sustain too much situations like that. My Jup is very friendly but it is a Leo Jupiter. A leo is a Leo is a Leo Hey! I am knowing a little about me me me me me! (it was a Leo echoes
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Ah, the classic “pursuer-distancer” dynamic aka “pursuer-avoider”. Much has been written about it. (If anybody wants to know more, just google either of those terms.)
Good article here
Btw, I don’t think you, Elsa, are a pursuer. But he appears to be a distancer.
(You gave him an honest chance for some weeks. A pursuer would have kept at it for months, years even.)
Jupiter in leo in the fifth square venus and uranus, trine a lot of other planets, and I am friendly but have a hard time starting and maintaining a deeper friendship because of other factors in my life. I think I come off as flaky because I commit myself to too much and in the end just can’t handle it. I do try to keep the few important friendships I have current, but usually good friends of mine can sense this about me and won’t leave me alone until I get off my ass.
I am very friendly (my Jupiter is in Leo - does that make sense?) However as a Scorpio Sun, just cause I’m friendly, doesn’t mean you’re “In like Flynn”
Interesting topic…
1st/Aries(2nd decanate)/Jupiter here… conjunct the NN…
I seem to be able to take people in short bursts, and only intermittently.. and then I have to go off and do my own thing.
A lot of people take this the wrong way and think they’re being dismissed when, really, I just need some time alone to stoke my fires..
Bundled with my inability to reach for others (it has something to do with my pride, not my fear of rejection..) makes it hard to hold onto relationships.
But the people I _can_ call my friends are amazing. And they are 100% appreciated.