Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: The Box - Part Two
Catch up here - The Box, Part One
Later that evening, there was another call from my ex, the Special Forces guy. More Mercury vs Mercury sparing, but you can see my other transits are at play here.
Saturn transiting the 7th house (relationships) and I met this man 28 years ago, the last time Saturn was transiting my 7th. Also my Pluto (expose what is hidden) Moon (roots) transit comes up…
Briiiinnnng! Briiiiiiing!
“I got it. It’s here,” I said.
“Did you watch anything?”
“I’m watching the movie. But I had to stop it because I started crying. It’s making me cry.”
He laughed.
“I know, I know. Don’t tell me anything okay? Because I just started it so I don’t know anything about it yet. I’m not crying over the movie. I’m just crying because it’s here.”
He wanted me to pop one of the cd’s in. There was one movie and two cd’s. They have footage from Somalia on them for one thing. Yeah. Black Hawk Down. This stuff is innocuous to him. It’s his life. But I’m not him…
“No!”
“Oh, come on.”
“No! I’m not ready for that. This movie is enough for now. I’m already crying I said!”
“Just pop the one cd in. I just want you to see me. The first thing you’ll see is my face, then you can take it out.”
“No! No, no, no and no. Absolutely not. I’m not going to do it and quit asking me. I am going to watch this movie first and I don’t know when I am going to watch that other stuff. I have to talk to you about it. I do. I have some things to ask you… er, never mind. I’m not talking about that stuff right now. I want to watch this movie…”
“Are you going to have to turn off the lights or something?”
“What?”
“The last time I sent you a box you had to turn off the lights and lay on the couch.”
“What?”
“That’s what you told me. When I sent you that box in 2003, you said you had to turn off all the lights and lie on the couch.” He laughed.
“I did? Well I’m not surprised. Apparently I was overwhelmed. Was I overwhelmed? Is that why I did that?”
“You were overwhelmed, E.”
“Right! No surprise. So I had to take a powder. Big deal! Look at this stuff you send. It’s not normal! Do you send people normal stuff?”
“Not really,” he said.
“Right. Not at all. This stuff is not normal. So it ought to be very understandable when a person wants to turn off the lights and lie on the couch about it. And, wait a minute. What are you trying to do here anyway? You’re trying to send me an experience, aren’t you?”
“Yes.”
“Right! That’s what I thought. And it’s working. I’m crying at the movie having my experience and my life and believe me I’ve got my hands full. Because this stuff comes in on all these levels.”
“Yeah?”
“Well, yeah. First there’s the movie and whatever it means. Why did you sent it? You have a reason and I don’t know what it is.”
“Uh huh.”
“Then there’s the simple fact you sent it in the first place. It came through your hands! See what I mean? You sent it. That’s why I have it. Can you see what I’m saying? This runs through me. I can feel all this.”
“I know, P.”
“Right. You’re someone I knew when I was a kid and now you’ve sent me this movie and… well I don’t know. It’s almost hard to believe I’m sitting here with a movie I got in the mail from you with all these years in between. Try to comprehend that. Because I just can feel all this, you know. It seeps in. I can’t help it. So just let me watch the movie. Let me try! When I stop crying, I mean, I’ll watch it. One thing at a time. I want to see what this movie is! I want to know why you sent it so let me find out! And don’t tell me anything about it or anything else that’s in that box.”
“You sure you can’t just pop that one cd in?”
“No!”
He was joking. “No, no. You take your time. Watch the movie. Do whatever you want to do. Turn off the lights and lay on the couch. Go ahead. You’re a senses person, E. I know that. You are a senses person.”
“A what? A what kind of person?”
“Senses! We… Italians are senses people. They use all their senses all the time. They sense everything. Italians use the senses you can see and their unseen senses as well.”
“You think that? Just Italians?”
“No. Others do it too, but for sure, Italians do it. They all do. So you go right ahead and do your thing. You leave that box on the floor for as long as you want.” He laughed. “I’m a quarter Italian. I understand. You’re more like a Catholic than you might think, P. We Catholics have our rituals too, you know. It’s all the same, E. These rituals are part of who we are. It’s in our blood. We have the same blood. You know that don’t you? Do you know that? Do you know where we come from…”
He went on, and I just smiled. Did this mean I could watch my movie in peace? I thought so.
Are you a senses person? Do you have rituals?
19 Responses to “Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: The Box - Part Two”
I am a senses person. I work outside and in heavy traffic, so when i come home after work and all my senses (listening to a radio, using my physical body, smelling the city, you get it) are exhausted I like to take a shower with the lights off. You know, decompress. And I have very little water in my chart (almost zero) so this does wonders for me. Like a new woman!
I have rituals but I am self-conscious of them because people tease me that I have OCD. They involve time and space. That’s all I am willing to say.
Strawberry Fields - I’m just like you regarding verbal expression and exchange. Wonder what your Merucry looks like 
- it’s sign, house and aspects, or if Mercury is dominant in yout chart.
Finally, a story!
First thing I thought as I read “you’re a senses person” was he meant Elsa’s sun sign is water. Water are supposed to be the sensors, right?
I’m water, but my sun is opposed by saturn, and I have a cool airy ascendent, and fire moon, hmm. I don’t know. I guess I am but not very aware of it and not living it as freely. I’ve dessensitized myself from a young age, as a survival mechanism 
I’m practizing on gaining back awareness of my emotions. I have no rituals.
What appears to be a smiley face in my previous comment was supposed to look like a =P (tongue out)
I guess it should be a sad face instead of tongue out. the smiley is too freaky
Debby,
I have Mars, Merc, North Node and Sun all stelliumed together.
Sun = my core self
North Node = my life’s purpose
Mars = drive to
Merc = communicate
All this is in Libra (choose sides, decide fairly after consulting all concerned parties, i.e., *communicating* with them to ‘hear all the evidence’ so that everyone can live harmoniously together, without conflict).
All this is in my 8th house (natural ruler = Scorpio: intensity and ‘leave no stone unturned’: talk, talk, talk until you’ve covered ALL angles, which ultimately is an unattainable goal).
My 8th house is ruled by Virgo (’analyze’; natural ruler of Virgo is Mercury: communicate).
I could go on, there’s more, much more, but that gives you a beginning of an idea.
Afterthoughts…
About: “Real talk.”
My Merc (talk) is square my Saturn (reality check).
About: “Connected talk.”
The bulk of my chart is based on a theme of ‘connectedness’ - strong 7th house (’relating’) and 8th house (’urge to merge’), plus Cancer Moon (symbiosis).
You bet your ass I’m a senses person. When I was a kid, I had to touch everything. I still have a hard time not touching things. And smell?! That’s how I know I like a man–by the way he smells bc you know what? You can’t fake someone’s scent. You either like it or you don’t and no one else has that scent. I’m also one who needs to move and when something overwhelms me, I too need to sit still and let it wash over me.
Senses and, like Marly, I still have a hard time not touching things. Smells are second in importance, then sounds, then taste and finally sight.
I don’t have any rituals and I go out of my way not to get into a “rut”… which, in and of itself, could be a ritual 
Marly, what if the person hasn’t showered? It’s not their “characteristic smell.”
Strawberry Fields, I get the drift
All my personal planets are in the 8th and 7th house.
My Cancer Moon conjuncts my Cancer Mercury. Moon-Merc conjunction - analysing feelings. The Moon’s qualities - feeling, sensitivity - and Merc’s qualities - thinking, talking - work together as one unit.
My Moon conjuncts Merc from the 7th house - natural ruler - Libra. My Mars (drive) conjuncts Merc from the 8th house, where I have also my Sun and Venus. Mercury itself is either in the 7th house or right on the cusp of the 8th house, depending on the house system.
My 7th house is in Gemini (ruled by Mercury).
And my Pluto (go for everything that is hidden) in Virgo (analysing) in the 9th house (truth, meaning) sextile my Mercury-Mars conjunction.
I’m very verbal, but I’m lousy at small talk. Meaningful communication is most essential to my relationships and freindships and I can’t stand “staying on the surface”. My ideal relationship has to be based on deeply, thoroughly and intimately knowing my partner and be known by him. Not to mention the 8th house transformation stuff :=P
Excuse me for buttin’ in, but. . .
Actually, Dani, it’s better if the person hasn’t showered, in my opinion, because then you’re getting their natural scent.
There was an interesting study (sorry I can’t give you particulars, I read about this around ten years ago) dealing with possible human pheromones in which women ranked a man’s attractiveness by smell. Basically, each man was given some plain, white t-shirts to wear (a fresh shirt daily) and instructed to not use deoderants (antiperspirants were okay), cologne, or heavily scented soaps during the study. Then, without seeing the men in any way, the women were asked to smell the shirts and rank that particular man’s attractiveness. Later, she was shown pictures of the men involved and asked to rank them by sight. Repeat for a little while (I think the study lasted six weeks).
A couple of interesting things about the study:
The men that any one woman frequently chose as being attractive were the men who were the least genetically similar to her. The “chosen” men were also, in general, the ones that were the most immunologically divergent (meaning the men were immune to things that the woman was not). And, as a woman moved closer to ovulation, she became more discriminating (e.g. a shirt ranked highly the week before might fall dramatically in the poll).
The conclusion that the study came to was that the heightening of a woman’s sense of smell prior to ovulation might be a evolutionary mechanism to help her pick a mate that, genetically, would give her child the best chance to survive.
BTW, I’m not saying the study is/was valid. Just that it’s interesting.
Oh, yes, I’ve heard some of these marvels of pheromones and how they control our desires, and they make me feel so out of touch, both figuratively and literally, since I’m a lot less responsive to physical presence than I am to emotional and mental qualities and exchange. It’s awfully strange to me that Marly says she knows if she likes a man or not by the way he smells. Smell is probably the least important sense to me. I guess it’s a difference in the way we take in information.
So we have here a couple of senses people and a couple of words people. And just to balance the pheromones point of view here’s a little article about the power of words and how attaching a different label to a scent can “change what we smell”, affecting the actual parts in our brain that interpret smells:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4558075.stm
Debby, I totally ‘get’ you! Looks like we have a lot in common, in terms of the overall flavor of our astro layout and what we value and seek!
Holy crap, all this talk about smell makes me want to stick my schnoz in my lover’s armpit!
On another note, any ’sense’ people have houseplants? I seriously manhandle mine! Like, rub their leaves and all.
They love it, too I swear.
“Marly, what if the person hasn’t showered? It’s not their “characteristic smell.”
I knew what SaDiablo meant and I have read a lot about that stuff SaDiablo posted. I was talking more about a person’s natural scent when he is clean, though. It usually hits me broadside, btw. Also, I do like men wearing cologne, though, but some men don’t need it, at least for me, anyway. I’m sure other women would feel differently about that particular guy’s scent. I have followed men down the street based on their cologne–it reminded me of my uncle’s (who was a father figure for me, given that my real father was gone).
For me it’s sexual. If I don’t like a guy’s natural clean smell (obviously him being dirty is out of the question for me), he’s not touching me.
The other thing is that when a guy likes you, his smell will change. Another thing is that he will naturally “show” it via body language: he might put his hands behind his neck, exposing his armpits which further suffuse the air with his scent or he might spread his legs which will also liberate his natural scent. He’ll do this unconsciously, btw, but just from my descriptions, you all can see how these are typically masculine stances, right? anyway, that’s the animal part of us talking inadvertently.
Yeah Cancer Moon conjunct Cancer Mercury. Means that you actually have no idea what you’re feeling sometimes. Like I have no idea of whether I’m angry because of Mars in Capricorn in the 12th house.
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