Dear Ottawa,

Congratulations on finding such a good match. It’s fortunate. You sound very happy but you are having a Saturn transit and you won’t be able to resolve these fears by flipping some kind of switch. That does not mean you’re going to lose the guy. On the contrary, I think he is an instrument of the universe and I will explain.

When Saturn transits a person’s chart, they get hit with reality, for good and ill. And you can see how this younger guy forces you to consider your age. You are taking stock. And Saturn transits always bring a ton of fear. What if the sky falls? What if this, this, this or this happens and it happens on top of this? But there is always some kind of carrot out there that forces you to set aside your fear and persevere. And in this case, it’s this guy. You’re not going to toss him back just because you’re afraid, right? Of course not. You’re going to cope!

And by sticking with this you are going to learn some things that you would never learn any other way. Eventually it will dawn on you that this guy is interested in you because you are you.

See, youth is beauty and all that; however young people are very undefined. And on one level, this is their appeal. But some people aren’t interested in that at all. I’m not! I like my people to be defined. I like my people to know who they are and what they want.

And this is the kind of thing that will dawn on you. At your age, you are what you are. And you should take great comfort in this. It should actually give you security. Because whatever it is you are, no one else can be you. It took 50 years to become you! So think about your guy…

If he loves you, he’s going to have a very difficult time trying to replace you. Because he can’t just substitute a different spokesmodel, you know? At this point in your life, you are very distinctive and love is the strangest thing.

When you actually love someone then that’s who you love. Warts, wrinkles, farts, bad moods, quirks… that is your person. This is the person you want and all the other superficial stuff is for the birds! It’s for the people who don’t have LOVE, see? Because real love is blind. Think about it:

I love who I love and I don’t care what on them sags. What am I going to do? Go get a tighter version I don’t love? Come on! That makes no sense. Why would I want to be eating dinner with some smooth skin boy that bores me when I could be with a craggy man who doesn’t? One that makes me feel something. Seriously, now. There is no contest.

Hang in there, okay? You’re learning what you are really worth and a year from now, you’ll know. And you will be a better man than you have ever been before, because of it. Worth going through the current hell you’re in?

Yes.

Good luck.

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