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Relationship Astrology - Mars Square Mars in Synastry: A Girl Can’t Even Die In Peace!
Astrology in Real Life…
Mars in a chart shows how you fight and assert yourself. So my ex, the Special Forces soldier is still hung up on the fact I would stand up on the battle field to take a bullet. This because I am tired and war is just so ugly. Sound like Mars in Libra? Yeah. I really don’t want to slog through mud, or God forbid, blood just to stay alive! Just to go on with my hard life? Forget about it!
But his Mars is square mine which puts us at cross-purposes. And it makes him uncomfortable too, in keeping with the recent theme on the blog. Because I am sure he feels that any soldier who stands up on the battlefield deserves to be shot for their own stupidity.
“But since it’s you, I would have to do something,” he said. I would have to save you somehow. I guess I’d have to tackle you, I’d dive on top you and pull you down. But I would defiantly have to do something because I could not let you just die there.”
Which believe me is not his desire. His desire is to fight and win the war, not save idiots.
But anyway, this is what he said. And I imagined myself lying there in the dirt with some soldier on top me. “Great! You have to be a hero and now I’m lying here all dirty and crushed. Thanks, a lot dumb ass!”
So there you go. This is what it’s like when one person’s Mars squares the other.
So what about you? Do you have any relationships where this happens? Where you and your friend have different agendas and so you collide? Tell us.
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Well… My most recent ex has Mars in Aries. Mine is in Cancer, though I am otherwise very Aries… We fight like mad. It’s better now that we’ve split up because I can hang up when he starts ranting and raving, but at the time it was living hell.
Yes indeed. I could go on about this topic forever. I have have my mars in libra square my parent’s mercury/mars in capricorn. I don’t think I can think of a more frustrating, irritating person… but an ex who has mars in cancer comes to mind. I don’t like to fight with anyone, but both of these people definitely bring out the urge. What you’ve said before about cardinal signs being, essentially, control freaks, definitely rings true here.
As far as parent goes, anything I say or do is leveled down to being flighty, too random, or unsafe. They’re always afraid I’m going to end up dead or kidnapped or having broken something nonsensically valuable during times I am tending to my need to breathe fresh air, and they pull worry-filled guilt trips and/or start yelling if I attempt to do anything on my own. I tend to exaggerate most things, but that is definitely not an exaggeration. Everything gets put into the “You Can’t Do That Because I Said So” box, even now that I’m in my 20s. It’s like, God forbid I think for myself.
My ex was similar, but more keen on the whining and guilt trips than yelling. We were both just going to do whatever we were going to individually do, and it wasn’t going to work as a “partnership”.
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Mars/Cap here and the mate is Mars/Gemini.. UGh
One can’t get motivated to do it and the other is prodding that one to move!
We had a decision to make and I knew what and how I felt was the best way to do it. My mate hemmed and hawed for days. It is so frustrating. Now I dont even ask/talk/etc… I just do. He can mull it over while its getting done.
I have a Mars opposition between my Mars in Libra and my husband’s Mars in Aries. I tend to find the opposition easier slightly than the square (because the conflict is more clear-cut, more obvious - the square just feels frustrating). I feel lucky that my Libran Mars is a pretty good channel for diplomacy and working out compromises, and I’m lucky that my Aries-Stellium husband has a Taurus Ascendant and has learned to be patient enough to deal with his Aries frustration when the way presented him is not His Way (which is obviously the best way, blah blah blah).
I think how you deal with that Mars has a lot to do with composites/synastry however. Mars has been the least-honoured part of my chart until this relationship where it got highlighted through the relationship charts, and the composite is split between the Libra-Aries dynamic so it feels easier to get a handle on the things and play with them and put them forth into consciousness.
Sometimes I find my biggest conflicts are not with those where I have a Mars square but where the Mars signs just don’t have a natural compatibility eg. my friend with Mars in Scorpio.
My Venus and Mars are in air, I have Uranus aspecting my chart ruler and luminaries, both the Sun and Moon are in air houses etc. and even though I’m a watery person I like a measure of detachment in my relationships. I do not like to be owned or bound - I’m most loyal when I feel least restricted by someone and the posessivness of Scorpio Mars is not something I could easily deal with in relationship. As friendship it’s fine, but in romantic terms I think we’d probably just end up making each other unhappy.
Well, I looked at the current mate’s Mars placement, and our Mars are conjunct (would that explain why we almost never argue??)…and former flames both have Mars trine my Mars…I think I tend to avoid people who square my Mars simply b/c I have too much Libra & hate to fight
haha.. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years.
my mars squares his mars.
mercury square mercury also.
we are soo different in so many ways. when we fight/argue it’s intense. we infuriate eachother and a lot of times, it’s over really stupid things. but, on the other hand, we have this immense attraction. passion.
“i can’t live with/without you”
lol
My daughter’s Mars is in Aries opposite my Mars in Libra which causes our home to get quite loud at times.
My boyfriend of 2 1/2 months… his mercury squares my mars and his mars squares my mars. Our conflicts arise during phone conversations & on MSN as well; these arguments are so petty and they are a detriment to my wellbeing. We yell at each other over the most stupid things ever and make really warped judgments about each other. Our viewpoints are so different and the intellect/debating skill derived from his having a gemini mars and his sharp tongue derived from having a sagittarius mercury proves too trying for my pisces mars, which is a subtle water sign. Instead of making me happy, he never does anything he says he’ll do. He makes me cry tears of pain more than anything and he makes my emotional wounds deeper than ever before.
His venus also squares my mars, which creates a sense of excitement on a sexual level. I’ve never been so turned on by someone’s physicality & sexuality in my whole life! However, there is still disharmony here, because he tends to run out of passion and energy when I’m feeling comfortable and wanting more touching. When aroused, he also comes on too strong at times, accidentally elbowing me and the like… Will the intense physical and sexual attratction outlast the annoaynces & ill health caused by the discordant mercury/mars & mars/mars aspects? Only time will tell.
There is someone i’m getting to know… We are both Cancerian with our suns conjunct.
However, he has a lot of fire/air in his chart. I am mostly water/earth. His Mars is in Aries, mine is in Cancer. I guess I am drawn to his fire (I have Venus in Leo and some asteroids in Aries)…. Maybe his Cancer sun keeps him sensitive to me? For the time-being?
Similarly, I have an Aries friend who has Sun Venus in the 8th house. Moon in Aries as well, I think in the 9th.
What affect does a watery house placement have on firey Aries energy?
My partner of four years has his Sagg Mars exact square my Virgo Mars. We fight ALOT. I have to resist the urge to argue for absolutely no reason. Things get totally out of proportion and we both react extremely fast to any provocation. Also initiating sex can get a bit tricky. On the other hand, when were both concious and make an effort to compromise with each other we have this tremendous physical energy at our disposal. We can get heaps of heavy duty cleaning and renovating done. Its like theres a rocket up our mutual bums. Or we have very aggresive (in the good way) sex. This aspect does require quite a bit of conciousness that is hard to maintain. I guess the key is to drop the pointless egoism and try to work together. Definately not for those who wilt in conflict.