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Emotional Ruin After Losing Her Lover: Saturn Return - Virgo Sun With Venus Conjunct Saturn In Leo - Part Three
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Bereft,
Having established yourself yesterday as an upright, stand-up human being who acts with integrity in relationships, what now?
Well, you have to decide. How pervasive is your obnoxious behavior? Do you need therapy or can you get on top it yourself? I have no idea. But as you move ahead, if you think you might benefit from therapy, get it. And you don’t have to be perfect. You only need to be doing your best. You need to try.
And when you commit to this, help arrives. Look for Saturn figures because you’re going to see them everywhere. Saturn figures are people with authority. Generally they are older than you and more experienced. Teachers, cops, judges, old men and Capricorns for the most part.
You will meet these types repeatedly throughout this transit and it is via them you will know how you’re going. It’s very simple. If you encounter the police and they let you go, you’re doing ok! If not, you’ve got trouble. If the teacher acknowledges your effort, you’re on track. If you get a D in the class, maybe not.
And slowly you pull through. And later, when you look back at this time in your life you’ll see it was a turning point. It will be the time you became real. You will be grounded and authentic as opposed to flitting around in your life, in some kind of pie in the sky denial.
And this is what you want. Because people who are not real can’t love. Is it love to eat your lover for lunch? To consume them? Is it love to fling your shit onto others rather than grow up and take responsibility for it? Of course not.
So you can see how critical it is you resolve this. It’s because love will come to you again. And when it does, you’ll know what to do. You’ll have the ability to act in a way that is appropriate and build (Saturn) a relationship (Venus) that lasts and because of this you will never have to feel what you are feeling now ever again. And just so you know, you are not alone.
I had this exact experience. I had a great man once upon a time. And I was such a punk! I was an incredible punk and I just could not get my head out of my ass and eventually I lost the relationship.
I suffered a tidal wave of pain, just as you describe and in this process promised God and whoever else if I ever had another chance I would…
I would do the right thing! No matter what! And love came again. And I stuck to my promise. And I have a great love because of it. And in fact, all of my relationships flourish and it would not be this way had I not gotten killed way back when. I’d still be a clueless punk, see?
And although it may take years (it did for me) eventually you will see this guy you lost was not the one for you. Because it’s this simple: Relationships that are meant to last, do not fall apart. They just don’t. So this is my advice:
The right man is coming. Get ready.
Good luck.
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Thank you Elsa. This series was wonderful. Good luck to bereft! I had this same realization years ago, and screwed it up again. Now’s my chance to fix it.
This is great stuff. This should be the itinerary for a love 101 class. everybody should get a taste, a study, an understanding of this. what about when you arnt being a punk, what about when you tend to love those who are punks to you? is that another class or does that mingle in here?
“Relationships that are meant to last, do not fall apart”…..I whole heartedly agree with this! Thank you elsa for my daily inspirations
That’s a GREAT question, Cassi. Personally, I’m a fuckin’ idiot and go around picking people who are no good to me. Obviously, it’s something I’m doing, can’t blame the other person for that. What’s that about? And do you believe that one is doomed by one’s chart? Cuz that’s how I feel sometimes: nothing but self-sacrificing Neptune all around.
Awesome advice!
Coming from someone else going through a Saturn return, it’s rough and you’re going to need to bust your butt. So far, though, it seems worth it….
Marly….I know that you were being rhetorical but I just had to respond to what you said,
“And do you believe that one is doomed by one’s chart? Cuz that’s how I feel sometimes: nothing but self-sacrificing Neptune all around.”
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm? I would give that question a resounding No.You see there are polarities in EVERYTHING ….even Planets and Signs!Let’s start with Neptune. Neptune in it’s positive form is idealistic, imaginative, inspirational, devotional, transcendant and most of all Neptune is the highest form of spiritual love! The negative Neptune is delusional, self-sacrificing, victimized, helpless and hopeless.
Since we have free will we can choose which energy we will translate into the world.
I used to feel the very same way about life until I started studying Astrology and realized that I CHOSE my chart long before I came here. Knowing this humbles one to the point of having no choice but to use the positive energy of each Planet. I mean what is the alternative? Self-undoing? Self-victimization?
There were many demons to “face” with my Neptune, my Saturn, my Venus Rx, etc., etc., etc.
No one else has the potential to utilize the positive energy in Marly’s chart because there is only ONE Marly.
You’ve got gold in them “hills” girl and it seems your ready to sart mining it.
I cannot wait to hear how you find it!
Sorry….I meant to spell you’re instead of your.duh.
Thanks, Jamie, that’s very sweet.
I’m so dying for real, carnal love, though. Spiritual love is all nice and well. For Mother Theresa which I’m not. I mean, yes, I write and I can be very imaginative but that Neptune trips me up when it comes to real men. And I’m not young, either. I’m just not learning, though, I’m trying so hard.
But thanks for your sweet encouragement. I’m just in a tailspin of frustration lately.