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Workplace Affair / Relationship: Capricorn, Libra Moon Suffers a Saturn Transit - 1st House, 7th house
Dear Elsa,
I’ve been doing this back & forth dance with a Gemini from work. We are extremely attracted, and finally did “the deed” after a year of “we can’t have sex because both of us are going through divorces, and its against my religion” - Jehovah’s Witnesses. Aaahh… I should have run away a long time ago! Alas, this guy filled a void coming out of a very unfulfilling marriage, and I actually fell in love with him and even investigated his religion.
We finally came to an end today. He broke my heart, and I still can’t figure out what the hell happened. I had hope, and now, well I guess I must face the facts.
I’m just wondering what the hell happened there. Any words of wisdom for the sad cappy?
Heartbroken
Dear Heart,
I think you’re on track. You’re coming to terms with (harsh) reality and the best I can advise is, you go as easy on yourself as you can. As a Capricorn, you are naturally self-chastising and this tendency is currently exacerbated by a Saturn transit. However, this is easier said than done, so I have a tip.
The energy has to go somewhere, so rather than beating yourself up and feeling unworthy and so forth, please try to focus on what you can learn about yourself. For example, with your Moon in Libra, you don’t like to be alone! And I have a great sympathy for people like you, because I am a people like you! And this is in part, why this happened.
It is also probably how you wound up in the sucky marriage as well, and with Saturn transiting your 1st house, aspecting natal Saturn in the 7th house… well, that’s the Me/We axis and the focus right now is to work on the self (1st house) as you relate to others (7th house).
So if you will get to work (Saturn) learning (Saturn) so you can be wise (Saturn) as opposed to becoming depressed and frozen in fear, (negative expression of Saturn), I think you will get a modicum of relief short term and great benefit longer term. Need a first step? What goat doesn’t?
Get some books about relationships. “I’m Okay, You’re Okay” type stuff, and start to read. This will take your mind of the immediate hurt but more importantly, it will put you in the realm of learning what you’re supposed to be learning right now. And once on the right path, the universe always supports.
Take care and good luck.
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Ouch, rough situation, and throwing being a JW on top of it only makes it worse. I’ve been there (as a former JW myself) and it sounds like it was something on his side (maybe he didn’t want to have to deal with the whole religion aspect of it, it’s really hard for someone as a JW to marry/date someone not one) that threw him off course. I hope you start feeling better soon!
i was raised jw, and i would suspect that is a big part/most all of the issue, since you’re wondering why.
when someone is ejected from the religion-which is what would happen if anyone found out the two of you did “the deed,” for example-their friends, family and entire former social circle quits talking to them. cuts them out! they have the choice of leaving the religion and starting over, or continuing to go to meetings all the time, where no one will talk to you, sit in the back, and regularly beg the men in power to believe you are truly repentant so you can get back in. it’s ugly.
plus, to get a divorce, ONE of them has had to have sex outside the marraige anyway. otherwise, it’s against the rules. so there was something there, too.
add to that that if he believes in the religion, he probably believes he’s going to be obliterated any minute at armmageddon for what he’s done. the guilt is tremendous when you break the rules, and any deviations in behavior or even though is ill-tolerated.
i’m sorry you got hurt, but this religion is particularly bad about creating serious issues. they push you to limit all your social contacts to the religion, and then bail on you if you don’t do what they want. it’s screwed up.
hate to say it, you’re better off without him, i’d bet.
if you have additional questions, feel free to contact me and i’ll help if i can. good luck!
Thank you for these comments. Yes, I think Goddess got this right…his wife cheated on him. I am the first woman he has been with since the physical seperation. As he is for me. This back and forth dance has resulted in me being sucked into “talking” to the elders of his church. At the time, we hadn’t done the “deed” but we had had a lot of phone sex and seeing each other outside of work. The elders were basically witch hunting for dirt on him, and I complied during a moment of weakness. I evenutally recanted my conversation with them so they wouldn’t speak to him in private to chastise him. I have sooooo much guilt on this!! Anyway, I finally told him myself what I done. When you mentioned creating serious issues…that is so true!! Such bullshit it what it is!!! We’ve been going over what I said to them, and he is slowly waking up to what this JW organization is all about. I’m thrilled, but to be honest with you, he still says he can’t be in a relationship with me, but we continue to remain friends, but its getting old for me. I love him dearly, but I can only give so much to this man. I’m sooo sad trying to fill the continuous void that is left. I know this too shall pass.
Thanks for your thoughts & good advice. How did you get out of the JW organization? What got you out? It is so controlling and guilt ridden…pheeeew! I’ve never known anything like this group. I love the people, just not the organization.
Peace & Blessings,
HJ