Flaky Quitter At Work: Saturn Transits a 6th House Stellium in Scorpio
Dear Elsa,
The field I have just chosen - which involves social issues - is the closest to what I hope can help the most people. But this requires a lot of group work, and something I am afraid I can’t do: developing and maintaining work relationships.
In this world I’m entering, I have to approach strangers for interviews, keep on deadlines, and…. just not get pissed off at people when things don’t go well. I have to keep my promises. And I almost feel like these things are impossible to keep up, because I’m still here, as fearful, unrelenting, flaky me.
So, here’s usually what happens: Sometimes I feel like groups I work in aren’t doing enough or they’re doing it all wrong and I get frustrated with the leadership and people’s sheeplike complacency. Eventually, I stop being as involved or, just give in to the group slothiness. Then, I think about dropping out, like I am considering right now…
Many of my work relationships have faltered and broken off from losing steam, and I feel like I keep disappointing everyone! I’m running out of time to make mistakes, especially now that I’m in a field where other lives are at stake.
I think my nature is going against the greater good!!!! How do I know when to leave and when I should just stay and stick it out - even when my heart’s not in it?
Please help if you can!
Signed,
The Eventual Disappointment
Dear Eventual,
The first time I read this I thought you sounded incredibly arrogant. People are sheep? They’re sloth? If they do anything at all, they do it wrong? Yet you’re the one who quits? Hmm.
And then you follow this up by calling yourself a flaky loser and I had an impulse to really let you have it. I was going to talk to you about the fact you are having a Saturn transit and that a little humility would go a long way. I was going to remind you that it’s you who is running your life. I was going to also suggest you stop whining and then apologize for being harsh, before I explained that your chart has an emphasis on the 6th house.
Focus on the 6th house indicates you are here to (humbly) serve the common people. And I was going to say that it was here where I thought it got perverted.
I was going to explain the reason you have the ability to see the flaws is not so you can reject people and be holier than thou, but so you can work to make things better. And I was going to tell you that if you would align with this… if you would get on the job and stay on the job, you would very likely feel happier and more fulfilled than you could possibly imagine. But then I re-read your post.
And you sound positively tortured. And though I believe everything I just wrote up there, I think you may have a more complex challenge. I think there might be something underlying that would make it very hard for you to just “get your ass in gear”.
So I am going to have to recommend you see a professional counselor who might be able to give you some insight into all these sides of yourself that contradict each other. And insight into these things that trigger you and cause you to act out, ultimately leaving you with a result you don’t want and depressed self esteem.
Because I have read your post carefully several times now and I don’t get “lazy, flaky, loser”. I get “person who desperately wants to be good and do well”. But there is something dogging you, and you owe it to yourself and the people you will eventually serve to find out what. Good luck.
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Hello my name is Mark and this is my first time to ever leave a comment on these sites and i just wanted to tell u that i had went through a similiar issue in which i had felt frustrated and depressed alot which truly lowered my self esteem and like ima tell u this which is that i have virgo in mercury and when it comes to self analysis i’m pretty good at spotting flaws and weaknesses and i’ll tell u this much i hope that this informtion helps ok the problem your experiencing actually isen’t that much of a problem ima be straightforward you say that you desperately want to be good and do well so then again i’ll ask you whats stopping you but then again i see that it’s your feeling of being inadaquete and that your not good enough but don’t let that feeling get you down because you can do it and you could fix that little problem of yours with a bit of encouragement and by sticking to whatever has been frustrating you even if it comes down to complaining and airing out how you feel which does a world of good at times if expressed properly because the key is expression not repression which will irritate a person but then again try to figure out a way to express your self to the people you associate with in a positive manner without running away from the problem which is what i used to do which doesn’t help because no matter what those flaws won’t dissapear till when you face them head on which will help you cope with any frustration it’s almost like a secret being kept from the people you associate with so live life through expression and letting people know how you feel since people are not mind readers if you’d like to know more you could write to me on myspace at MarkFlores@aol.com ok.