Teenager, I am similar to you. I am not the same. I am not nearly as challenged, but I do think relaying my experience will help you out.

See, I am an intense piece of work. I obviously am. I am one of the most freakishly badass intense people you could ever meet, but I don’t look it. Like you, my first handshake is very misleading.

And I didn’t know this for years. I just went out in the world the way you do, the way everyone does and had no idea why people initially interested in me became repulsed… or whatever it was that happened. And it was my sister who tipped me off.

“It’s your fault,” she said some dozen years ago. “You go out there with your dimples and your innocuous maiden clothes and people think this is who you are. So these men glom all over you and God help them when they find out who they’re really dealing with.”

“Hmm…” I said, bluffing to get more info. And I’m glad I did. Because this is when she said the thing that tipped it all for me:

“And how are you supposed to find a peer, dressed up in your nun clothes? I just don’t think it’s very sporting of you,” she said. “And I never have. You should be a lot better sport.”

“Whaaat?” I had to laugh. My sister had just called me a bad sport! And I have enough Sagittarius… well I was offended! And a few seconds after that I realized she was right. Crap! And her solution?

Well, she thought I should show some cards up front. Quit playing “maiden”. Right away, identify myself as a force. And I have done this with excellent results. Like this:

To disclose my eccentricity I stopped wearing generic clothes. Safe clothes, are out. I mention up front, early on in meeting someone, my key interests. Sex. Astrology. Relationships. Etc. You get the idea. “How are things going, Elsa?” they ask on the way into the gym. “Another day of living hell,” I say with a smile. I just lay it out and let people decide whether we’re going forward or not.

And you can do the same thing. Like mine, your ascendant complex, your first handshake is attractive. People like it. And lucky for us, huh? We ought to have something going for us! And you can and should exploit this. The fact you make friends easily, I mean. You can use your first handshake to disclose yourself and I think if you do this, they’ll far fewer “accidents” or rejections after the fact.

“My name is Teenager and I am unfortunately complex,” you could say.

And can you see how that could repel the superficial, the people who want to just go through the motions, but attract the people you really want in your life? I hope so.

And this is not going to happen in a day. But over time you can get this down to where it’s second nature to you. And you know why I’m so confident? It’s because I can see all the parts of the “whole” you in your chart and this method serves them all. Like this:

-Your Aquarius is served because it’s unexpected. People will be surprised and you like that.
-Scorpio is served because you get to observe their reaction.
-Sagittarius is served because you are blurting the ‘truth” of who you are
-Capricorn is served because people who will reject you are weeded out up front…very effectively limiting painful losses.

And anything that serves all like that is going to be hard to dismiss!

And I am very clever to have figured this out. :smiles:

That’s my braggart Leo side, talking to yours.

Have a good life!

Good luck.

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