Dear Teenager,

You’re very smart to have picked up on this pattern at such a young age. And no. I don’t think you are picking the wrong friends. You are choosing the people who will best facilitate your growth, provided you do exactly what you are doing. Examine it, that is.

Now the way it works, what all of us do, is pick people who are living various parts of our natures that are unconscious, or otherwise unexpressed. And I’ll give you an example.

Some years ago, I married a guy who lived in a shack with a $50,000 stereo. He was an obvious “eccentric” and I thought I was very plain and normal.

But wait a minute! Isn’t any woman who marries a Shack Man just a tad eccentric herself? Eureka! What an awakening when I figured this out. All my friends are crazy! Jeez. Might I be crazy too? Duh.

So in your case, you’ve got several things working here. Major parts of your personality that you need to understand, accept and integrate. And I suspect you have limited awareness of them so what I’m going to do is come back tomorrow and outline this for you. I’m just going to turn all the lights on and with your basic nature more fully in your conscious awareness, I have no doubt you will see radical change in your relationship patterns.

To be continued.

skip to part two.

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