As far as I am concerned, there are two kinds of Scorpios. Those who trust someone, and those who trust no one.

If you are a Scorpio who trusts no one, you are going to be one miserable son-of-a-bitch. Because Scorpios need love too! You can go along for awhile chewing up everything in your path, but eventually you’re going to get to the end of that road… and you’re going to want to open up to someone. And you’re going to want someone to “see” you. To see your flaws and love you anyway.

Like the AMF does when I spike up like a jealous freak! He sees it happen. He sees my dogs get out so to speak, and the next day he loves me… even more. And this is where healing lies. It’s healing for him when he withdraws on a three day brood and there is no hell to pay on day four!

So how do you go from trusting no one to trusting someone? Well, it’s easier than you think. You only need trust yourself.

You can learn trust yourself to be able to discern who is trustworthy and who is not. It’s easy enough, once you factor out your paranoia. You know. You have to get rid of the “no one can be trusted” mentality, because this is simply not true. And I am living proof of it. I’ve never betrayed anyone in my life. Further, I never will.

So if you can accept there are some people out there who would never betray a friend, then you can go looking for one. And I admit it may take some time.

Ben as an example again. I’ve known him about twenty years now and recently we were talking about trust. He told me he trusted me completely, to which I just shrugged. Why wouldn’t he trust me? He’s been watching me operate for decades. But then he told me something that truly shocked me.

“It took a while,” he said.

“What? Really? How long?” I asked.

“About twelve years,” he said.

I almost fainted. I trusted him from day one.

He went on to tell me the exact instant he “trusted” me and I was purely flabbergasted. The event was insignificant to me and in fact I don’t even recall what it was at the moment.

And my point is this may take some time. But maybe not as long as Ben. Because no one told him what I am telling you now. No one told him it was possible to know someone, to have someone in his life who would not betray him.

So about this man of yours. You say he’s done nothing wrong. And it’s possible he has no intention of ever doing anything wrong. It’s possible. So you can start today. You can start trying to manage your paranoia, for one and you can imagine that it’s at least possible, this guy is not the betraying type. That it is not in his nature!

You can also start coming to understand your own ability to screen people. Your famous Scorpio gut. You’ve got one don’t you? Use it! Trust it.

Most important of all, you can start to acknowledge your appeal, and not just your shadow. Because this is imperative. After all, how do I know my jealous feelings are irrational? How do I know The AMF will not betray me?

It’s because I know I am an excellent partner. This is a fact. And I know we have something very rare and special. And half of it is me! And if I refuse to see that, I’m going to be fucked. You must do the same. You must own your value if you are ever going to get on top this. So I hope this helps. And one more thing.

The AMF is a painter and guess what he paints? Nudes! At least from time to time. And what do you think that means?

It means women come over to his place and take their clothes off and pose for him. ::laughs:: Yes! And I cope. Pretty easily too.

So don’t tell me that jealous feelings cannot be transcended. If I can do it, you can do it. And when you do, you will really begin to feel your power.

Good luck.

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