OOoooh… *settles in with popcorn*

I’m very interested in the answer to this puzzle. I may not be a Scorp moon (only Uranus in Scorp), but I do have a focus in the 8th house. Since I’m also being forced to work through some of my possessive/jealous issues, this looks like a fun question!

Wow, I was just about to ask the same question as Miserable. I, too, wonder if my jealousy will one day leave me on the outside, looking in… and that bit about self-loathing was especially true, since the moment my jealous side emerges, I confront loved ones about it and they get offended. At which point, I feel very guilty and hate myself for even doubting them.

(If you’re curious, I have both Moon & Pluto in Scorpio with the Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Jupiter in the 8th House. Pluto also makes contact with some of my personal planets. I have a Sun Sextile Pluto aspect, a Moon Conjunct Pluto aspect, and a Venus Square Pluto aspect.)

Er… Indy, I used to go to strip clubs WITH the soldier when we were kids. This would be 30 years ago lonnnnnnnnnnng before it was en vogue.

It also looks as if half this question is missing… at least this is the case using firefox so really I don’t know what I was answering here.

I should clarify - going to a strip club is a different thing then grabbing some gal and deliberately trying to incite me to kill him by dancing alongside me a sexily as humanly possible while pretending he’s never seen me in his life.

Ya still wouldn’t like it, Elsa. The helmet would fucking fly.

Has he dared do this recently?

Again Indy, I can’t see the question so I don’t know what I responding to and I just don’t remember what else this person said.

As to the soldier going to a strip bar if he really felt the need, I would not bother him about it provided it was a fluke. I am not sure how long you have been reading my blog but I spent 3 years with a painter who routinely had naked models at his apartment… in his bed even to photograph them and I did not have a problem with this.

Now if a man made a habit of going to strip bars and gawking at women, you are right, I would leave him. I would also leave any man who spent time of any significance sitting in front of a computer with his dick in his hand… I have stated this many times.

I would also dump a man who sexualized other women (disrespecting me) by looking around on a date but whatever this person said… it did not fall into this paradigm. But AGAIN, I cannot see the question and further, my editor EDITS the advice questions after I write the advice and there have been times he has taken significant pieces out in error that make my response seem silly and this may be one of those cases as well - I just don’t know.

Thing is if you are consumed with jealousy and wish to control a person to the extreme - You WILL end up alone.. People are human and they have sexual thoughts. I know I do and if every time I did, the man I was with had his blood boil.. well I’m sorry but I am going to go somewhere where I can breathe…. leave some other gal to live in that kind of oppression.

I just asked him:

“If you went to a strip bar do you figure I’d mind?’

He looked at me curiously. ‘I don’t know. We used to go to strip bars when we were kids…”

“Yeah, but do you think I’d be jealous?”

“Don’t know. Guess not but my strip bar days are long gone. I haven’t been to a strip bar since I was… 27 years old or so.”

There you go. Outgrew it at his solar return.

Does not mean his brother could not show up, ply him with liquor and get him to a bar. In fact, he shows up, I’d expect this and most definitely do nothing at all to interfere.

I figure a man is an adult. He can do what he wants and so can I. If he does something I don’t like I’ll tell him. If he continues to do it I will either leave him or let it go but what I will not do is police someone.

In this case, the soldier and I see eye to eye. He is easily as jealous as I am - we love each other, respect each other so we don’t play games with this stuff.. way too much to lose.

See? Strip bars are out for you two right now. So you go and say this woman is being unreasonable for expecting her man from enjoying the same. She doesn’t want a man who goes to strip clubs, and you’re saying she’s being too controlling. She knows what she wants, just like you do and always have. Why put a “man’s” immaturity issues on a woman who wants marriage material?

It doesn’t matter what you can or cannot see vis-a-vis what was edited out; you gave some advice that might not have been in line with who she is as a person. Girlfriend is not “covered in boils” - she knows what she’s not comfortable with. I would have given her some support instead of damning her to accept The Superiority of Wandering Dick.

re - this last comment: Elsa, your blog is a homework assignement for all of us to work our truth. Sometimes our truth does not match up with yours. Being the bratty rebellious kids we are, I guess we might question you instead of thanking you for allowing us understand that we are supposed to question. Being a grown up, and you are, you will forgive us all, shake your head and much later mention a little “I told you so” story go humble us. Bless you.

Whatever.