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Too Much, Too Fast - Codependence in Relationship: Venus Moon Pluto Conjunction

Dear Elsa,

I seem to have trouble picking the right guys. When we meet, things get intense pretty quickly - and then the guy starts pulling away. I’ve been trying to lay off a bit and be a bit more laid back in relationships, but they’re still not going any better.

A few months ago, I met a super-cute Leo and true to pattern, things got intense right away. Then he backed off, but he still is hanging around in the background. I can’t tell if he’s interested or not, but since he keeps kissing me, I think he’s at least a bit interested.

Also, if I back off, he moves forward. Then I move forward, he backs off again. This has been going on for three months and it’s driving me nuts! Plus, there are always a lot of ladies hanging around him and flirting with him. I can’t tell whether he likes me more, or whether I’m just “one of the pack”.

I like this guy, and would like to see if things can move forward but am not sure how to get out of this deadlock, or even if he really likes me. Seems if he did, he’d be more anxious to move forward. What do you think? Any advice?

Lovin’ a Leo

libra and her sparrow Dear Lovin’,

I’m sorry. I think you are “one of the pack”, though I might have found a gentler way to say that. I think this because men typically make it very clear when they want a woman exclusively. For that matter they usually make it very clear what they want in general, so based on your post, I think this guy likes to kiss you and that’s about it.

Regarding his coming on then backing off… it’s possible he is only serving his Leo ego. You know. He wants a damned harem interested in him, if he can manage it. And it doesn’t sound like this jibes with your desires - so if I were you I’d cut the rope.

As to this pattern of coming on too quickly, you have some work to do. I see your problem as a boil, so I’m going to slice it open so it has the opportunity to heal.

First, you have a lot Libra in your chart and Libra is always co-dependent to some degree. So basically you are trying to give these boys what you think they want. And in the process you are losing sight of what you want. So how about I tell you what you want?

With Moon, Venus, Pluto conjunct in Libra, you desperately want to be partnered. And that’s okay. I want to be partnered too. But with who? Not with any son-of-a-bitch who comes along, okay? And this is where you’re getting jacked up.

With Saturn square to all that Libra, you are insecure around what you are worth and what you deserve. And you see what happens. You serve your co-dependent self up on a platter to whoever might be interested and I don’t have to tell you where it leads. So here is my advice:

Forget the surface games. To be emotionally satisfied (Moon), what you want is a partner (Venus) with some depth (Pluto)….who can commit (Saturn) to a real (Saturn) lasting (Saturn) relationship (Venus) that empowers you (Pluto).

I suggest you keep your pants on until you run across a man who has the potential to fit this bill, and stop wasting your time and energy on those who don’t. Because if you keep doing what you’re doing you’ll never find him. Let me put it another way. ::smiles::

Let your pheromones build up until you meet someone worthy… and then let it rip. That’s what I do, anyway.

Good luck.

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pictured: Libra and Her Sparrow, 1907, Sir Edward Poytner

Advice, Astrology, Relationship Patterns, Astrology, co-dependence, leo, Libra, | Posted at 6:10 am

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