Hello,

I met someone two and a half months ago; we’ll call him “T”. I could go on and on about his good qualities and that’s what keeps me with him. He seemed so perfect but now after only a short time we are already having problems.

I have completely devoted myself to him. Whenever he needs to talk or wants to see me, I am always there. I go to his basketball games, cook for him, give him massages, call him just to tell him I’m thinking about him, etc. Whatever he wants for me to do, he just has to ask.

I think he wants me to read his mind though and if I don’t, he gets upset. He is a brat - he literally pouts and acts like he is upset about something, just to see what I will do. He complains if I wasn’t affectionate enough or if I didn’t comfort him the way he wanted (if he had a bad day but didn’t tell me he had a bad day). He doesn’t speak up at the time, but then complains later. No matter how hard I try, he makes me feel like it’s just not good enough.

He also gets upset over little things like if I don’t call him at the right time, if my phone rings too early in the morning, if I say something the wrong way, or when he spends the night if I don’t keep my arms around him all night or if I get out of bed before him. Maybe he’s insecure about relationships or maybe he’s just disturbed. I really don’t know. He’s a good looking guy with so much going for him though… he’s even a little conceited, so I’ve pretty much crossed out the possibility of him being insecure.

I think we could be great together if he just stops all of the petty bs. I know there’s a kind and loving heart in there somewhere, but how do I reach it if he won’t let me in? How do I earn his love, respect and trust if he won’t give me the chance to learn him? The things he gets upset about are just crazy to me.

Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated!

Pisces