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Dear Pisces,

I feel for you. People pull the wool over my eyes all the time. I am oblivious and it seems much nicer than this. That said, I don’t know how to un-know the things you know.

But I do know that you are a Pisces and your job in this world is to be compassionate. So listen. Can you call them on their shit compassionately? Because if you devastate someone’s defense system just because you can, what do you think the result will be? More specifically, who do you think will be hurt? You… or them? Might be you, huh?

Because if you obliterate someone, chances are they aren’t going want anything to do with you. At that point you will be REJECTED and this is the Achilles heel, isn’t it. It is. You are sensitive here and all the sudden it’s, who’s cryin’ now.

So you get the plot. You have a gift. I suggest you use it. Compassionately. And responsibly! And when you do this, everyone will win, the way nature intends.

Good luck.

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pictured - Christophe Veyrier, Dying Achilles, 1683, Marble, Victoria and Albert Museum, London

Dear Frustrated,

Well it already “works”. You guys have been amusing each other for six months. But do I think you’re going to meet, move in together, marry, etc.? Not likely. Sorry!

Look, what you’ve got on the other end of the line there, is a flirt. And there is nothing wrong with that. But when he canceled your trip… well he sent you a clear message he is not interested in any more than what he’s got with you. For reason, who knows! He may have a wife. He may have four wives. Get it?

So I think when he rejected you like that, it hurt. It hurt your Capricorn, for sure - so your dreamy Venus in the 12th took over and fogged this all up for you. That was nice. But now you’re writing me for a reality check, and this is it.

He’s a flirt and you actually like a fair amount of space. If you doubt this, compare this to me. Six months? ::laughs:: If I were to meet a man online, there better be hands on me within a couple few days or I am going to fish another line.

So what I am saying is, the idea you are going to bring this man into an earthly relationship is probably fantasy. The fact he amuses you greatly is real. What you want to do about this is up to you.

Good luck.

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pictured - Dante Gabriel Rossetti, Venus Verticordia, 1864-68, Oil on canvas

Dear Undecided,

You probably don’t have to choose - it just seems that way. You are probably responding to the current culture which demeans art as a frivolous pursuit. So just think about that and now on to your problem:

With planets in Virgo and Saturn and Jupiter conjunct in Capricorn, you definitely have a practical streak a mile wide. But what makes you think this side of your personality will cease to exist if you become an artist? This seems erroneous to me. There is a business side to art, so think about that as well.

Last, you have Libra… lots of Libra, so no wonder you can’t decide shit. I have Libra too and I also can’t decide shit. And I am really grateful when someone decides something for me, so this is what I am going to do for you.

I vote for you go the artistic route. Most anyone can be logical and prudent. Almost no one can be an artist. Any questions?

Good luck.

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Dear Knows,

I don’t give out my birth data. This is not because it’s a secret, but because it’s a game. I constantly drop clues around my chart. Plenty enough so that anyone with the inclination and a little knowledge of astrology can derive it - and many do. Then they send me my chart… or something they think is my chart. I smile, but never confirm or deny.

I can confirm my life is enormously challenging though, and I can advise you around how you can help. I have Venus in aspect with Neptune. I have Pisces ruling the second house. So the things I value are ethereal. Material things don’t do much for me…in fact “things” often make me feel sad and even burdened.

On the other hand, knowing that I have moved someone to serve or extend themselves in kindness give me intense satisfaction. So I would tell you, if you are thinking of me, please think of someone else. Help the person next to you. Give! Give a dollar. Give blood. Give whatever you’ve got! Because I believe this would all come back to me anyway in one form or the other.

On more practical terms, there is this blog. It’s very important to me. Some know that my daughter is very ill and writing this blog as helped me enormously over these last months. Sometimes, it’s just the distraction. Other times, it’s the routine that offers support. Having a deadline helps me stay on an even keel.

More personally, I am not a doctor, so what I can do for my daughter is very limited. But on this blog, I help other people’s daughters. This is something I can do and if you understand my belief system as outlined above… well, perhaps what goes around will come around and someone will help mine.

So if you want to help. Or if you just like this blog…the very best thing you could do for me is to post a link to this blog from yours. Or post to a message board. Because this work is both my escape and salvation.

Thanks again and good luck.

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Dear Wife,

I am going to tell you what’s happening. I’m sorry if the astrology is dense but you’re writing an astrologer and this is bound to happen now and then!

First, Uranus is transiting Pisces. At the moment, it’s at 7 degrees Pisces, applying to your Sun at 8 degrees Pisces. Consequently you want out! You want free! You want change. You’ve HAAAAAAAAD it. You want a revolution, and on this level, it’s very intellectual.

But people are complicated, as are their charts, as is life. And rarely is there only one thing influencing them. So while the Uranus transit plays as described above, you’ve got another thing to deal with here: the current Fixed Grand Cross in the sky.

A Grand Cross is basically a planetary train wreck. It occurs when four planets in the sky are at a 90 degree angle to one another, forming the shape of a square. Something like this affects the entire collective, but is more personal when you have planets in your chart near the points where these planets collide.

As an example, if this were an earthquake, people like you with planets in the mid-degrees of the Fixed Signs where this is taking place… well that would be like living on the fault line. Compare to people with nothing in their charts in the Fixed Signs. They might feel the rumble and know some people got hurt in a neighboring city… but they’d be less impacted.

So you’re in the first group and here’s an idea how it plays. The planets involved are Mars, Saturn, Neptune and Jupiter. Each planet lends its energy and there is no natural affinity or agreement. Like this:

• With Mars in involved, you want to take action and you want to take it now.
• With Saturn involved, you’re thwarted, and forced to be responsible.
• With Neptune involved, you’re confused. Not sure what you’re doing until you are and then aren’t and then are. There is also desire to escape… ala get drunk! Or take a Valium.
• And with Jupiter in the mix, it’s all bigger than life and furthermore, people want to be righteous!

Got that?

So here’s what I’d do. Chill for the rest of the year, for sure. Don’t try to untangle it, let it untangle itself. Because this will happen. Planets move, as do people.

And in the meantime - for distraction, amusement, and amazement - look around you and note how many people are caught in their version of this same scenario. Somehow it’s reassuring to know we are all part of the same universe. Good luck.

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Dear Girlfriend,

It’s hard for me to judge since I don’t know the nature and the quality of the love you have for your man. But of course it’s possible. And I think you are right to be considering this, because if he’s going to all the trouble and expense and angst to fight for his rights… well his daughter is way WAY up there as a priority in his life.

Now because his ex has successfully kept you out of this equation, I am afraid you may have the illusion you are your boyfriend’s #1 girl. You are his Queen, because you have yet to see your man DOTE on his daughter. You may like it this way, and this is not a criticism. Who wouldn’t like it that way? I’m just trying to clarify this for you.

See, you have never had to share him, or step aside. I assume he goes to see her, and you have to step aside for that - but I’m talking about her being in the room and having priority over you.

And you might want to think about that. Because if he gets custody, making space for her will be your new job in life. Seriously! Because children come first.

You didn’t say how old his daughter was… but with most kids, you can’t stick them in the closet when you want time alone with your man. You have to deal with them constantly and this requires a degree of maturity.

So can you do it? You can if you want to, because you’ve got the goods. Just fire up your Venus (exalted) in Pisces. Pisces love is like fog. Throw your dreamy love around him and it’ll be hard to not to love her too, when she’s standing right next to him.

Good luck.

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Dear Beleaguered,

Objective advice, I have.

You say that you and your husband are closer than ever, right? That’s good. I think you are completely capable of resolving this and it will be much easier than you think. Quit feeding this and it will die.

Look. She’s a psycho. But so are you, for trying to deal with her. And are you really being honest when you say you want a relationship with her? My ass. You want to throttle her and you know it. With cause!

She is your total rival. You are both in love with your husband and want to be his primary relationship. But can’t you see, you’ve already won? You had the man and you have the man. It’s Game Over, so what the hell are you doing standing on the mound in the rain, still pitching at this thing?

Stop it. She is only occupying your time because you allow it. And is why is that?

Forget about trying to figure out how you’re going to deal with her, and instead ask yourself why you’re dealing with her at all. Because if your husband wanted her, there would be nothing you could do to stop it. But it doesn’t sound like he does. So why do you keep this on the front burner, huh?

Bottom line: with Pluto in the 7th house, you are projecting your power when you are the one who actually has control. Turn off the flame under this and the whole thing will stop boiling… which will free up an enormous amount of energy you can use in a way that is productive and enhances you as a human being.

If your husband loves you like this… believe me he will be head over hills if you opt for sanity… real sanity, not feigned sanity. So do it, and do it now. Good luck.

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Dear Worried,

Yes, I think he’s interested… but he’s only interested in what he’s interested in and that’s very limited.

What are you interested in? If you are interested in getting together with a man when he comes to town, then you’ve got it. If you are interested in more than this, I think you’re going to go begging. And I’m sorry, because I know that’s painful to hear.

Here’s what I would do: stop calling him. Take your energy completely off him and see what he does. If he does nothing, you do nothing. If he does something, then perhaps there is a relationship to negotiate. But right now, you are the only one holding the thing up and I’m thinking this is lousy, sorry deal.

But that’s okay. There are a gabillion men out there. Good luck.

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Dear Jupiter,

It’s heartening to see a 23 year-old man who thinks about someone besides himself, and I very much appreciate your desire to be loyal. However, I think your number one loyalty needs to be to yourself. And I don’t think “plodding along” is a very good way to live.

That your girlfriend provided support when you needed it does not surprise me. Class attracts class! You’re a good person, she’s a good person, and so you hooked up and had this exchange. That’s great, but it does not obligate you to be her boyfriend for life.

I do think you have some responsibility though. You have a responsibility to be true to your emotions, and to be emotionally honest with her. And it’s obvious you want to be “clean” in this… what Virgo doesn’t? So I would suggest you resolve your feelings about the one girl before focusing on the other. You know. Consider your current relationship, independent from the other.

So do you want to stay romantically involved with your girlfriend? Because it doesn’t sound like you do. Friends, yes. But it sounds like you’re looking for something else, something more on the romance front.

If this is so, you have to tell her. You have to free yourself and her in the process. If you do go this route, I don’t know if she will want to maintain a friendship with you. But it’s worth a try. And in whatever case, you will have acted with integrity and at that point, you can move on to your next task. Facing your fear around the woman you want, for example.

Good luck.

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