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29

Betrayed By Cheating Boyfriend - Cancer Sun, Gemini Moon

Hi Elsa,

I was in a horrible relationship for three years, until I found out I was pregnant - which is when I decided to leave. About halfway through my pregnancy, I met a great guy and we’ve been together for a little over two years now.

I thought things were going great until two months ago… when I found out he cheated on me. I was devastated. He has continually told me how sorry he is, and has tried to show it as well. He called the other girl in front of me, told her what happened was a mistake, and that he was already in a relationship. He also told her there wouldn’t be anymore contact between the two of them. I had a hard time believing they weren’t still secretly calling each other, so he even went as far as to close down his cell phone account.

He pretty much goes out of his way to SHOW me he isn’t cheating on me anymore. He comes straight home from work. He includes me in all of his plans. But I can’t seem to get over what he did. We weren’t married, so a big part of me is wondering why I should even bother trying to make this work. But my daughter ADORES him (she never met her “real” dad) which isn’t making this any easier for me.

I’m sure you can imagine how betrayed and absolutely crushed I feel right now. Is it worth trying to work through all this?

Cheated On

Dear Cheated,

can I have one question for you: do you love this man? Because you don’t really sound like you do. You sound pissed and you sound disgusted. You sound as if your pride is hurt, but you do not sound as if you especially love this guy.

Should you try make it work? Well, sure. If you love him, then absolutely. I surely don’t approve of cheating, but what’s done is done and it sounds like he’s doing everything he possibly can to make amends and win back your trust.

But I think the issue is deeper, don’t you? It sounds as if you met this man when you were utterly vulnerable. You were pregnant for chrissakes! So now you’re signed up and then he goes and pulls this shit!!!!

I think you have a lot conflicting feelings here. Your Cancer Sun is concerned with security and the welfare of your daughter. It wants to control things. The Leo in your chart… well part of you is a Queen! And who the hell does this bastard think he is cheating on you! On royalty!

Another side of you is very detached. So he cheated? Big deal! All it means is payback is fair game, and your Gemini Moon may even think this whole thing is at least a tad interesting. Hey, at least you’re not bored!

But I’ll tell you what it comes down to: DO YOU LOVE HIM? If you love him, than work through it. If not, than get the hell out of there. You can arrange and allow visitation between this man and your daughter, if it feels right. Do what you have to do. But don’t stay with this man if you don’t love him. All three of you deserve better.

Good luck.

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