Can’t Stop Eating - Capricorn Rising
Hi Elsa,
I’m afraid I’m going to lose my wonderful husband because I’m so overweight.
I worry that he’ll cheat on me, or just leave me. I’ve been badly hurt before and never thought he would marry me - or that he even really loved me.
I’ve put on a huge amount of weight since we got married. I never stop eating. My therapist told me to look into self-fulfilling prophecies. Maybe I’m convinced my husband will leave me and I want to prove that I’m right.
Am I doing this to my body on purpose?
Help!
Frantic Wife
Dear Wife,
You’re going to have to discipline yourself, or you’ll prove both yourself and your therapist right. But never mind you - what about your husband? Because if you prove yourself right, then he winds up losing the wife he loves!
Do you feel responsible yet? I want you to feel responsible to him, because I think this will help you enormously.
You know how they say you can’t lose weight for someone else? That’s probably true for most people, but with a chart like yours… I think this could work. See, I don’t think you’ll do a damned thing for yourself - but you will do almost anything for your partner.
Sound co-dependent? Well it is. But with a massive emphasis on the seventh house (relationships) and Libra (relationships) - your partner is enormously important to you. I suggest you exploit this. Motivate yourself by understanding that your eating is messing up his life.
And you can take this even further! I know, because I do it myself. I tell my man, “I am busting my ass at the gym, so I look good for you.”
I mean it too. I use his energy to motivate myself and we both benefit. I blather about this all the time. “I am going to look as good as I can for you,” I say.
See the commitment in that? The way I am taking responsibility? Those are Capricorn concepts. I am a Capricorn rising (as are you) and this is our stock in trade. It is our main gig. It’s what we are good at.
Right now, you are afraid you’re not good enough. You need to flip the switch, and make damned DAMNED sure you’re good enough. Start today.
Good luck
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