Dear Not Sure,

First, fifteen is plenty old enough to ask a question on here. I’m not sure it’s old enough to be having sex! But I take you very seriously and besides that, I admire the hell out of you. I admire your attitude and your candor but most of all, I’m impressed with the quality friend you must be, that a pal could confide something like this to you.

That said, I highly doubt he’s going to outgrow his bi-sexuality. He’s far more likely to grow INTO it. You know. It’s probable your friend is gay, and you are an important factor in his liberation.

Know why? Because he’s out there experimenting and you’re letting him. You’re not judging him. Everyone should be so lucky to have a friend like you.

I hope you walk away from reading this, feeling proud. You’re fine person, a stout friend, and as rare as can be.

Good luck.

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Dear Broken,

Wise words? Yes, I do. First, this guy is not running your life. Get that clear. You’re the one in control here. You’re the one choosing to take part in this crappy, unsatisfying relationship. In other words, you are responsible.

Now, regarding your chart - there’s major focus on relationship. With your planets in Libra, and your Moon in the seventh house, there’s a strong desire to be partnered. You can be alone, but I doubt you’re going to like it much. You’re just not cut out for singleness like some others are. Further, you have Venus in aspect with Saturn in your chart, suggesting relationships where you learn and grow. A relationship is your JOB.

So here’s what I’m getting at. You need to do a better job!!! Get out of your victim role and take responsibility for the quality (or lack of quality) of your relationship. You’re in a crappy relationship because you’re in a crappy relationship. If you want a better relationship, you know what to do.

Step one - get out of this one!!

Step two - go shopping for the next relationship.

And believe me, they’ll be one, faster than you can spin. See, you’re learning, just like you’re supposed to. Look what you learned today. You get what you settle for. And you’re the one who decides when to settle.

Good luck.
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Dear Girlfriend,

I understand you want to save him, but this is entirely his process. I mean, think about it. All you can really do is be a trustworthy person. You can show up and how he handles it is entirely out of your hands. I’ll tell you my own experience though.

First, all Scorpios have been betrayed. And a good number of them trust no one because of it. But other Scorpios will trust their gut. They open up to a select “inner circle” - a very small group of folks who they feel reasonably certain will not betray them.

Now as to which category your man falls in, I have no idea. But just from reading your post, I’d suggest you give him some space. I wouldn’t advise you tell him to “let go”, for example. Scorpios will let go if and when they damn well please!

His process is a deep and private one. There’s no way he’s going to let you in there to move his wires around. Make sense? If you want to love a Scorpio, their pain is part of the package.

Good luck.
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Dear Distressed,

You have an excellent chance to have a better relationship with your parents, simply because this is what you want. When? Things will improve, whenever you want to improve them, and I don’t mean that to lay blame. I’m just saying that being willing to change is a very powerful place to be.

So here’s your deal. You have these planets in Cancer, making family important to you. Cancer clings, but your Moon in Aquarius detaches. Crap! Can’t live with them - can’t live without them. So how to play?

Well get hip to the fact your Aquarius Moon wants to rebel against the family. You want to break the family rules!

Now I can tell you - I’ve been running with Aquarius Moon men most my life and they pretty much bring me home to freak out Mom! If it’s not my color, it’s the fact I’m an astrologer, or that I swear, or I’m from the wrong side of the tracks or whatever. You get the idea. In one way or the other, they’re saying, “Look at this, Mom! I’m operating outside your rules!!”

So here’s what I’m thinking:

Get conscious of the fact your Cancer side needs family, and in particular, must honor the mother. But your Aquarian side IS quirky. So how about you go home and tell your mother you worship her. You know, butter her up! Then ask her if she would mind you being the oddish one in the family. In this way you might get your family to accommodate your eccentricity and in effect, have your cake and eat it too.

Good luck.
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Dear Jilted,

Take him back? Are you out of your mind? Sounds like you got rid of this bastard in the nick of time!

Look, you’re twenty years old. I understand you don’t want to be alone. But do you really want a life sentence with this kind of creep?

And quit telling yourself things were perfect. Quit dreaming this guy up. He’s obviously not the person he presented himself to be when you got engaged.

I suggest you amputate him and do it now. And have a plan in place. If he calls you, click off without saying a word. There’s nothing to say and nothing to discuss. His game with you is up.

I’d say I feel sorry for you, but really, I think you just dodged a bullet. So don’t get back in the line of fire. Walk away. Walk away clean, with your chin up.

Good luck.

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Dear Torn,

If you have to ask…

To be very candid, I don’t think you’re going to go long term with either of these men. The Taurus has bored you and considering the Gemini in your chart… this is pretty much terminal. Admit it - you want constant stimulation!

You have a better shot with the Virgo. He may be even smarter than you and that would be tasty. However, there is obviously something chemical missing or you would not be writing me.

From the tone of your post and the look of your chart (you’re a Cancer), it sounds like he’s not offering you the security you need to thrive. Can he do this for you? Find out. And if not, I think you will soon be looking ’round… with a better idea of what you’re looking for, yes? Someone solid, who doesn’t bore you.

Good luck.
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Dear Tired,

Yes I do. Get the hell out of there. I mean permanently, as soon as you can, but shorter term - I mean LEAVE. Get up and leave the house. Walk around the block. Anything. Just get moving.

See you’ve got all this Virgo and you want to fix people. And you’ve got all this Libra and you want to make peace with them too. But you know what? You also have a good bit of Sagittarius and Sadge knows how to leave!

So this is my idea: tell your inner Virgo, “this cannot be fixed”. Tell your Libra, you don’t have to make sweet with every freakin’ sourpuss you encounter. Well actually, you’re Libra so you do. Unless you let that Sadge take over, in which case you’re outta there bay-beeeeeee.

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Dear Freedom,

This is easy. Just keep on looking! I’ll tell you a story.

I used to date Scorpios with Leo risings. I’m talking six out of seven men - in row, which I guess qualifies as a pattern, yes? ::laughs::

Well you know what? These men never worked out for me. In fact, they were disastrous. Eventually I became weary going round and round in the same loop and I decided to give these men a pass.

Well once I decided this, do you think I stopped meeting these men? Hell no! They were as attracted to me as I was to them. But I opted out and what do you think happened? After two or three close calls, I got clear.

I can’t say this strongly enough. You know you want something new, so don’t settle back into the old pattern. Don’t even think about it. Keep focused on what you want now and you’re likely to get it… and then some.

Good luck.

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Dear Sun in Leo,

You aren’t going to hear any doom and gloom around Saturn transits on this blog. What’s coming in for Leo is a reality check. And I have the perfect story to illustrate:

I saw this actress interviewed in Oprah some years back. I wish I could remember her name, but I can’t - and it really doesn’t matter. Actors are a symbol of Leo, which rules all acting.

Anyway, the actress told a story. She was nearing forty and she’d just had a baby. She was a great looking brunette, and she worked hard to get herself back into shape. She said she was feeling great about her appearance, so she decided right then and there to audition to be the next Bond Girl.

They told her, “you’re too old”! Can you imagine how she felt? What a reality check! Because at forty, she’s only get older, not younger, no matter how good she looks. And as devastating as this experience was, can you see how it set her up favorably?

It did. Because it slapped her smack into the real world, and allowed her to take stock of her goals. For example, how about working to be the best looking forty year old actress on the planet? And forty one? And forty two?

And this may sound like a pretty sad story, but just consider the alternative. Take the Saturn transit out of the equation. Don’t want to grow up? Fine! Then you can be that sixty five year old woman that I see around my neighborhood for time to time - the one in the super tight micro mini, the tube top and the Candies. Or you can be that guy on Match.com who is 52 who says he’s interested in 24 year olds. ::smirks:: It ain’t pretty, is it?

Here’s my advice, for any and all Saturn transits. One of these very simple things will cure whatever problem you’re having:

• Grow up
• Face your fear
• Take responsibility
• Do the right thing

It’s that simple. These are the sorts of things that only hurt if you resist them. Once you set the proper course during a Saturn transit, you will have all the support you need. As long as you resist - it’ll feel like a pressure that keeps on increasing.

Back to that actress. She could have decided to chase other roles better suited to a 24 year old. But then, she’d have met with more rejection, yes? Alternately, she could choose to cultivate an air of a classy older actress. Which is what she did, by the way, and her career is going great.

So there’s another key. If you are getting REJECTED, you’re barking up the wrong tree. If you are feeling SUPPORTED, you’re all good.

As for the recent changes in your life, you are entering a period of serious growth and learning. People who support that aren’t going anywhere. People who don’t will drop off, to be replaced by more people who do.

Good luck.

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Dear Devastated,

I’m so sorry you’re hurting so badly. Your pain is palpable from your post. But I’m afraid there’s very little I can tell you anything you don’t already know.

I’m sure the universe has acted in your best interest. I’m sorry, but I don’t think you’re going to be able to resurrect this relationship. You have a tough aspect between Venus and Pluto in your chart, and the burning you feel is part of your process. I know you feel like you’re dying, but it’s unavoidable. You will eventually burn down and at that point, rise from the ashes empowered, in fine Phoenix style.

There is a way to cut a break from all this. Temporary relief can be found via the Pisces in your chart. You are strongly transcendent, so just keep doing what you’re doing: trusting God, the universe, or whatever you call it. Pray! Just don’t pray to have him back, though. Pray for the best outcome - the highest result for all parties involved and eventually you will find your way.

I am so sorry.

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