Dear Left,

So you heal your partner and you wind up wounded, huh? Well, I hate to tell you, but this “White Knight” thing is one of your jobs out there, so I think you’re going to have real trouble getting out of it.

That would be like a Virgo getting out of helping people. Forget about it! It’s not going to happen. But that same Virgo can discriminate. They can decide who they’re going to nurse and who can go begging and you can do similar. So here’s my plan:

Consider giving up on other people’s values. See if you can quit trying to chase down what other people say is ideal as far as relationship. You know. It ought to be this. It ought to be that.

Instead, embrace the idea that sacrificing yourself and “White Knighting” is in your nature. If you can do this, I bet you will find yourself feeling empowered and simply more aligned with everything around you. At that point - Stage Two.

This part is a personal trick. I figured this out one day and thought I was a genius. Since you know you’re going to heal your partner…and it’s going to wound you, well what the hell? What the fuck? It seems like you’re hosed, but then I saw the solution! You only need find someone in the same condition as you. I’m serious. They’re out there and this works. Here’s how:

You heal them and become broken, which triggers their tendency to heal their partner. They turn around and care for you - which breaks them, causing you to step in and heal them…

Laugh if you want, but this works. I know, I’m living it. So this is who you’re looking for. Another wounded healer. And it goes without saying; you must expose your wound, yes? Which is what you did when you wrote me, so you’re on your way.

Try a personal ad: “White Knight seeks same…”

Much love.