Dear Divorcing,

I think you and your kids will be fine, but go the way you want? I’m not sure. But I am sure even if it does, this is not going to solve your problems.

What you have here is a power struggle and I’d strongly suggest you change your approach. Forget about forcing your will - “what you want”. Instead, start asking the universe to make it come out in the way that is best for everyone. Because that’s what’s going to happen, anyway. Your will be damned.

Thing is, you’re an extremely willful person and this is for good AND ill. There is a shadow side to getting it your way, and I’m pretty sure you’re going to find this out, big time over these next couple years.

Think about this. You want to win, right? You want it YOUR WAY. Fine. Shall you fight to the death, then?

If you do, you’re going to have to explain the dead father to your children, aren’t you? So you see my point.

And I’m sorry if this comes off as terribly critical, but I’m trying to help you. I think you have enormous energy and if you focus it in a way that’s improper, you’d better duck, because it’s going to turn on you like you won’t believe. Like when you’re alone in the dark.

Sometimes the winner loses and the loser wins. If you can grasp this, you’ll have a major key.

Good luck!