Dear Restless,

No, I don’t think there’s a way around this, exactly. You’ve got Venus and Mars in Aries and a real need for speed. Frankly, I’m surprised you go a year, because it’s the thrill of the chase you’re after.

You’d be fine if not for your equally dramatic need for a stable relationship. It’s God’s little joke on you. The best you can do is get conscious as possible and I can help you with that.

I would suggest you understand and accept that you want a partnership, but you want a some fight with your peace. So don’t bother with people who can’t deliver that. You’re looking for a lot of Scorpio, for example. A very sharp knife! If he can’t cut you, what’s he good for, right?

If you can find this - you can STAY. You do know how to stay. So here’s the deal. You want to go out there looking, with your guns strapped on where everyone can see them. Don’t even think about playing, “sweet”. You are not a maiden, are you? And this way when someone approaches you, they’ll know they are dealing with a formidable woman and they best eat their lunch.

He’s out there. There are plenty of men out there, looking for a woman like you. Just keep your focus narrow when you hunt.

Good luck

Dear Stuck,

This reads like some kind of train wreck. First, your boy is squirrelly. He gives you an expensive gift, and then disappears? I don’t think he has any idea what he’s doing and I don’t think it has anything to do with you, except the two of you collided and there’s got a be a reason for that.

I’d say, it’s the rejection. You seem to be reacting to the fact you were rejected, as opposed to anything about the boy specifically. This tells me you need to work on this area and I don’t think it will be all that hard.

It’s this:

“The boy left, I have no idea why, and now I am sick about it..”

Or:

“The boy left, I have no idea why, and I don’t care, because there are 100 million boys…”

Look. Here’s a little tip. You have a zillion planets in Sagittarius. Sadge is buoyant and all about perspective. What’s the story here? The guy left you confused? Or that was one confused guy?

I’m saying he’s someone you met on your travels. That’s all. And you’re basically a wild horse who has tied yourself to a post, so cut the rope and run. Do it today because you’re gonna be fine. And remember this! Remember how it easy it is to get yourself free.

Dear Frustrated,

You are a beautiful dreamer and I’ll tell you exactly what is going on. The divine love you can conceive of in your imagination just doesn’t exist on this plane. Because this is Earth, which falls way short of “heaven”.

I have similar tendency in relationships, though nowhere near your prowess, and I’ll tell you a story to illustrate. Back when I was young, nineteen, I stopped into a bar one night and saw, “Rueben”. Rueben was this Mexican guy playing guitar and I don’t know. He just made me slobber all over the place. I called him, “Rue-ooh-ooh-ben!” actually, and I started showing up at this bar, couple nights a week to pine over him.

Now the man was available. Little chickies would dance in front of him, and he’d hook up pretty readily with one or the other. He saw me in the bar, and he’d have surely been available to me, but rich as my fantasy was, there was no way in hell I was even going to talk to him. Why? Because I knew he’d ruin everything!

I had him dreamed into this exquisite being and the last thing I wanted was for him to come talk to me - say something stupid - and then what? No more fun for Elsa! And I knew it! I knew he could only let me down and I’m suggesting you’re doing something similar with your current boy. You’re enjoying the fantasy on some level. And I don’t blame you, because this stuff is delectable. “Will today be the day? Will tonight be the night? Was he looking at my shoulder? Did I just feel his breath?” So tasty next to a mediocre roll in the hay, yes?

You may decide fantasy is preferable to dealing with a flesh and blood man, and if you think it can’t happen, just check the women who fall in love with lifers in prison. They dream them into deities and toss around in their beds at night, about it. I guess their friends don’t like it, but what does that matter in the scheme of things? This is your life. Your gift. Your curse.

So there you go. This is your nature. In my case, my ethereal qualities only go so far. I want to have sex! This drove me to address these sorts of tendencies and find a way to function in a real relationship. You can do same… or not.

Dear Mom,

Your son has trouble settling into a classroom situation? Well I’m not surprised. He’s an intense, eccentric, intelligent, exuberant, unstoppable child. It’s obvious why he’d be struggling at seven years old, but I do not see a problem long term - at all. On the contrary, he’s got great gifts and he’s bound to land on his feet, especially when you least expect it, and all bets are off.

However! You do have a problem, in the near term. He’s overwhelming to others. I do think you should try to curtail him, but in a way that is brilliant, and unconventional rather than restrictive because this kid breaks rules in his sleep.

For example, he’s strongly Aquarian, and experimentation appeals to him. So check the difference here:

“Don’t talk in class. You’re not allowed to talk in class,” as opposed to, “You could try (experiment) with not talking in class and see how the teacher reacts…”

Can you see how he might be able to get behind that? I can. Because he’s also got significant Scorpio - read, a lot of power and I think he would be most interested in flexing this muscle. Basically he’d be changing his behavior to manipulate his teacher. I admit it! But everyone would win, yes? And you can’t stop this kid.

You can’t stop his energy. He wants to feel his power, so you may as well get used to teaching him how to use it, in a way that’s positive. And then when he grows up and realizes how tricky you are, he will love the hell out of you! For “getting him”.

Bottom line, I think he’s going to be fine. I’m not worried at all. But forget about imposing RULES on this kid. He just doesn’t work that way. You’d have a better chance of convincing a bird to walk south, rather than fly and that isn’t going to happen, is it?

Dear Scorpio Mom,

Your son is supremely frustrated. He’s a super Capricorn, which means he’s super Cardinal. People with an emphasis on the Cardinal signs - lots of Cap, Cancer, Aries or Libra - need to have some control of their destiny, even if they are ten.

I realize you can’t let him run the family (though I’m sure he’d like it if you did), but I think the more shots you can allow him to call, the happier he will be, and this will result in less acting out.

Now my son is also super Cardinal and very much thinks he’s the boss of everything. He is natural leader, like your son. So here’s what I do, with very good result:

I basically tell him he can run his life (and live with the consequences) to a very large extent, but he will never run mine. Or anyone’s else’s for that matter. After that, I let him.

For example, his sixth birthday is coming up in April. He’s a KID, right? But he doesn’t know that. He thinks he’s a man, and he knows exactly what he wants. To the letter! And he wants too much, so I tell him this. “No. You can have this or that, but you can’t have these other twenty things. So what’s it going to be?” He decides.

Now check how this works:

“Okay. I’m going to buy that for you, online. Do you want to be there when I do?”

He does.

“Okay. Because there are options. Do you want to choose everything, and do the clicking?”

He does.

So I let him. And he felt in control, as he sat in my lap in front of the computer, choosing which games he wanted with his gameboy bundle. And he was happy, because this is his natural state.

So then I told him, his present will be here early, before his birthday. “Do you want me to wrap it? Put it away for your birthday? Or do you want to open it when it gets here?”

He thought about it. Decided he wanted to open it right away.

Fine. I explained he could. He could have it his way, but he would have very little, if anything, to open from his mother on his birthday. “Agreed?”

He agreed.

So there you go. My five-year-old got his birthday present out of me, six weeks early. Am I a fool? I don’t think so. I think I have a happy Cardinal child, with boundaries.

Bottom line, your son wants to be a man. If you give him some authority, I bet he chills right out and makes you very proud. Just figure you have X number of children and one ten year old man. If you can see it like this, you’ll be well on your way. Because your son is a natural leader and will appreciate your vote of confidence.

Good luck.

Dear Divorcing,

I think you and your kids will be fine, but go the way you want? I’m not sure. But I am sure even if it does, this is not going to solve your problems.

What you have here is a power struggle and I’d strongly suggest you change your approach. Forget about forcing your will - “what you want”. Instead, start asking the universe to make it come out in the way that is best for everyone. Because that’s what’s going to happen, anyway. Your will be damned.

Thing is, you’re an extremely willful person and this is for good AND ill. There is a shadow side to getting it your way, and I’m pretty sure you’re going to find this out, big time over these next couple years.

Think about this. You want to win, right? You want it YOUR WAY. Fine. Shall you fight to the death, then?

If you do, you’re going to have to explain the dead father to your children, aren’t you? So you see my point.

And I’m sorry if this comes off as terribly critical, but I’m trying to help you. I think you have enormous energy and if you focus it in a way that’s improper, you’d better duck, because it’s going to turn on you like you won’t believe. Like when you’re alone in the dark.

Sometimes the winner loses and the loser wins. If you can grasp this, you’ll have a major key.

Good luck!

Dear Breathing

Yes, the asthma shows up in your chart, quite dramatically, but no, this does not mean you’re cursed. I’d know because I have similar challenge in my chart and sure enough, have struggled with asthma in the past.

Mercury rules the lungs. It also rules the mind… and communication. You have Mercury in a nasty aspect to angry Mars and restrictive Saturn. Can you see how this fits? Asthma is violent, yes? And you can’t breathe, so how’s that for restriction? So this is sitting in your chart like an event waiting to happen and then along comes a transit and BAM! It comes out to live.

Now this doesn’t mean you’re doomed. But I’m not sure diet is going to help. What you have, is repressed, unexpressed anger and what you need is an outlet for this energy. Basically you need to communicate your anger even though you’re scared. Otherwise it’s going to turn in on you, which is what you have right now. Say it, write it, scream it. But do something to get it out.

Exercise is also good. TRAINING is more like it. See, Saturn and Mars and Mercury will be very happy with a regimen of scheduled exertion… aka - GO WORK OUT. Slowly at first. You can think of it this way. Do you want to work to get a breath, or breathe while you work out?

You get the idea. Find an alternative channel for this energy, I bet you see your symptoms ease.

Good luck!